Hassle Free Filipina Relationships

[zaxy]

Thanks graham want my gf to meet my parents in uk before we decide marriage hope things work out for us

[grahamw48]

Yeah....best of luck mate.

I reckon the secret is to treat the relationship just as you would any other....regardless of where your lady is from. Keep the rose-coloured specs in your pocket.

[hawk]

wish my fiancee was a mail order bride as am working for dhl it would be cheap to get her here in a nice packing case much cheaper then visa

[lastlid]

wish my fiancee was a mail order bride as am working for dhl it would be cheap to get her here in a nice packing case much cheaper then visa

Yeah. DHL her across....

[Sailor_JT]

mm after reading this I think me and my wife must be odd, we met online and found friendship, when we met we found each other in a way I could never have imagined. Since then we got married, had a wonderful son, had wonderful time with each other. I have a huge extended family which I love, with people from a culture I love, my son adores his cousins. My wife likes my family. We are blissfully happy some seven years after we met, six years after we married and five years after our son was born. The future looks awesome (apart from our crap economic climate) and we are looking forward to going home to be sponsors for my wifes niece in Pampanga. Altogether quite brilliant, hence I am wondering if we are odd, we got nothing to moan about.

[grahamw48]

mm after reading this I think me and my wife must be odd, we met online and found friendship, when we met we found each other in a way I could never have imagined. Since then we got married, had a wonderful son, had wonderful time with each other. I have a huge extended family which I love, with people from a culture I love, my son adores his cousins. My wife likes my family. We are blissfully happy some seven years after we met, six years after we married and five years after our son was born. The future looks awesome (apart from our crap economic climate) and we are looking forward to going home to be sponsors for my wifes niece in Pampanga. Altogether quite brilliant, hence I am wondering if we are odd, we got nothing to moan about.

That's good to hear.

Very similar to my own story and relationship ...until year 12.

Keep doing what you're doing, but never take each other or that lovely relationship for granted.

I sincerely wish you and your loved ones all the best in the future. It sounds like you've made a great start.

[zaxy]

I'm hoping i can have kids of my own but well this day age hard to afford kids.

[HACHE]

Just having a browse here on this thread after having posted my own threads in my situation.
Hassle free?? No way, my relationship has been a roller coaster. Very high highs, and very low lows. Personally I prefer things on a more consistent level.
I'm with the most attentative girl I've ever met, but if I miss saying the right thing, the right way, there's all hell to pay.

In my mind for any relationship to work, and last long term, is basically you've both got to want it, and you HAVE to know each other well. All this "love conqueres all" stuff isn't enough in the real world sometimes and, well, if you iritate the hell out of each other when you have issues, you constantly misunderstand each other and jump to the wrong conclusions, that love will soon be chipped away, resentment sets in and you're then on a slippery slope.....

[grahamw48]

Actually I think you have written a very interesting and heart-warming post chiechie

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience

I don't think that most of us Brits regard our Filipina partners as 'baggage' though...rather a definite (if slightly small and cuddly) asset.

[chiechie]

Actually I think you have written a very interesting and heart-warming post chiechie

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience

I don't think that most of us Brits regard our Filipina partners as 'baggage' though...rather a definite (if slightly small and cuddly) asset.

thank you grahamw48

[CBM]

That bit of Ancient Greek wisdom, "Call no man happy until he is dead" applies with great force to any discussion in which people offer advice on relationships.

Love is a very risky business, but the upside is that you may end up with a family.

I have baggage - two half Filipino boys aged 17 and 10, and a divorce.

Kay's baggage is much less - one boy who was two when we met and is about to be four, and no marriage. So far as he is concerned, I'm Daddy. It's easy for me - I have lived in the Philippines and in other places, but for Kay she is taking the risk of taking on two bigger boys and moving to an alien place. I don't need to be a genius to know that her son must always come first - so he should - and that my major attaction is that I have "Good (step) father" written all over me - it's better than having "ATM" written all over me!

She also has to put up with a lot of chismis from neighbours - she was accused of having a Filipino boyfriend as well as a foreign fancy man - this rumour came a bit unstuck when her brother, who works in Manila and visits at weekends, and I made a point of very visibly going out for a beer together!

[Slip]

Well as a newbie on the Filipino dating front I read this thread with great interest!!!

I met a lovely Filipino on a Filipino dating website and we have been chatting for a couple of months now. She is currently working in Malaysia and we chat on facebook and whats app throughout the day despite the time difference between there and me in the UK.

As a complete online dating newbie I was very cautious at the start that she only wanted me for my money. I actually have none and have told her that But Over the past couple of months I believe her to be a genuine person and really has fallen in love with me (she tells me several times a day) I guess I have also fallen in love with her, but for some reason I am still very cautious that it is a con and she is only after me for money. I don't care how much I fall for her, I will never send money to her as I have yet to meet her. And even after meeting her I doubt I would send money. I know she is desperate for a kid and she has mentioned she would like to have one with me. I would also like a kid and would quite happily fulfil her wishes. But I am scared she is using me to have a child and will take the kid back home and I would never see my child again.
As I have no money and she is on a contract for another 18 months we have no plans to meet just yet. But do you think I am being overly cautious? It's just I have read so many stories about Filipino girls that I cant help it!

[Terpe]

I think you need to decide for yourself how to conduct a Long Distance Relationship. You will receive the opinions of others covering the complete spectrum.

There must always be trust.

Of course there will be risks whenever you put your trust in others.
Just as it can be very risky to always err on the side of mistrust.

I wish you good luck.