Quote Originally Posted by aromulus View Post
You can't really help who you fall in love with.

But if the person you love carries baggage, and you are not prepared to accept this, then you have no business in starting a relationship with that person.

So in a sense it is matter of being mature and committed enough to enbark on such a relationship.
That's a very good way of putting it Dom. I must admit I got a bit upset reading this post, I mean I do know Keith's sense of humour by now but this one was said in a quite serious manner. He's got a point there though, I wouldn't advise brothers or sisters or friends to get into a serious relationship with a person that has got extra baggages but don't we all deserve a second chance? Don't we all deserve to be happy? I and my husband went through a lot of troubles, defying odds, fighting the government so I can get a Visa to visit him, the annulment, and then there's the fiance' visa which took ages and I had to go to the embassy and give them a piece of my mind before they can release the 'damn thing', then there's the baggage issue on his side when I finally got here. But to sum it all up, I'd do the same thing again if given the chance to start all over.

I don't know, yeah maybe this thread will help other people to avoid getting into a serious relationship with a baggageless person, I hope.