My wife's affair

[ginapeterb]

Ritter,

One day I went home early and unexpectedly the guy is in our house.

What did you do when you found him in your house ?

How did you keep calm mate ? cos quite frankly, I think you were amazing to keep your cool, personally, thats an invasion of your castle....boy oh boy...you were calm compared to what others would have done.

[Sangoma]

Ritter,



What did you do when you found him in your house ?

How did you keep calm mate ? cos quite frankly, I think you were amazing to keep your cool, personally, thats an invasion of your castle....boy oh boy...you were calm compared to what others would have done.

Yes, I agree. I think I would have been locked up for adjusting his attitude.

Perhaps he needs talking to gently with a pick axe handle

When I first read this, I wondered how much of it was due to her background, and how much was due to just being an unfaithful woman.

Come to the conclusion it is probably a bit of both. If we believe the avearge age differences usually involved, I'm surprised it doesn't happen more often. It certainly would if they were English girls!

Many people ask me why do I think that someone much younger would be interested in my, and say they are just after the passport, the chance to earn to send home, and any inheritance, as it is likely they will live longer.

Personally, I don't believe this, as I'm not stuck with a blinkered view of the world.

But, when you hear stories like this, it does make you think if it was true in tis case.


I would make sure I have his full name and address, so that he can be named in court papers if it comes to that, and tell your wife that she has to earn your trust again. If she is not prepared to tell you who he is, or prepared to prove herself to you again, I would think very seriously about whether to continue the relationship or not. It would be better for your daughter if it failed now than when she was older.

It is possible it was just a friendship that went to far, but if it was a deliberate affair, I don't see much hope. People, male or female, don't usually seem to mend their ways.


But if it was an error, it is worth every ounce of effort to rebuild again.

[islander]

that is such a drastic story! hope it will be settled soon in the most peaceful way!

hoping also that our british hubbies won't generalize the situation with all filipina wives. it may be true that some filpinas are doing it, but there are also some who are loyal to their husbands as well.

[jimcarie]

sorry to hear your story, but for me the trust and honesty is broken there would be no second chances, if this woman truely loves you the affair wouldnt have happened, no good fooling yourself, stay strong for the sake of your daughter ,good luck

[aposhark]

Sorry to hear about this affair

Some people will try to fix their marriage, and some will finish with her.

Me. I would be down the road like a shot after sorting out the most favourable situation regarding your daughter.

I would always be thinking of what my wife is up to and it would be a tremendous amount of stress for me.

Trust is everything to me (both ways).

[skysky]

that is such a drastic story! hope it will be settled soon in the most peaceful way!

hoping also that our british hubbies won't generalize the situation with all filipina wives. it may be true that some filpinas are doing it, but there are also some who are loyal to their husbands as well.

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