Frozen Out of Filipino Conversations !

[Tish]

My hubby never really bothers about us (filipino) talking in our own language, but he has stopped going to filipino party now though due to feeling like a lemon with no one to talk to!

[IainBusby]

My hubby never really bothers about us (filipino) talking in our own language, but he has stopped going to filipino party now though due to feeling like a lemon with no one to talk to!

I do feel that when Filipinas get together for parties etc and they bring the Brit hubbies along, that they should make more of an effort to speak English, if only so that we husbands can feel free to join in with the conversation.

Iain.

[Tish]

I do feel that when Filipinas get together for parties etc and they bring the Brit hubbies along, that they should make more of an effort to speak English, if only so that we husbands can feel free to join in with the conversation.

Iain.

I really should make an effort to speak English especially during filipino parties, but at the same time, I feel like my hubby should learn to make an effort to make conversations to other people at the party, and not expect me to entertain him After all, I do initiate to talk with Brits people when at a Britsh party, so why can't he?

[David House]

I don't think you can generalise here. At a party I think it seems to me to be totally acceptable for our partners to speak in Tagalog, Visayan or whatever. After all the main point of the party is to re-create a little of their own culture, eat Filipino food, sing Filipino songs and chat about all things Filipino. However in a cultural setting which is British and populated by a mixture of English and other language speakers then they should expect to use English. I used to own a care home and I employed several Filipino carers. My rule was that they must speak English at all times when at work to ensure that the clients, their relatives and the other staff understood them. When off duty and in their rooms they could use whatever language they wanted.
And I too have had bad experiences in Wales where I once went into a pub to hear the English switch to Welsh as soon as I opened my mouth at the bar and for myself and my wife to be totally blanked.

[aromulus]

And I too have had bad experiences in Wales where I once went into a pub to hear the English switch to Welsh as soon as I opened my mouth at the bar and for myself and my wife to be totally blanked.

Really...???.......................

Deydondothatdondey....???

For how long I may take to think about it, can't really imagine why they would resort to such lowdown and extremely offensive xenophobic behaviour....

There must be something to do with B.O. or something, because the Irish and the Scots don't seem to like the English much either....

There must be something in the water they drink probably.....

Never mind, there always is Tenerife....

I did run a nice little pub, in a coastal village,in Anglesey for quite a while and such encounters always amused me.
The locals always spoke English in my boozer and never had to remind anyone about it.
But I also respected them in their choice to reverse to Welsh in case some lost English soul came through the doors.
It is their country after all.....

[walesrob]

For how long I may take to think about it, can't really imagine why they would resort to such lowdown and extremely offensive xenophobic behaviour....

Its called "Chip-on-the-shoulder" syndrome

[aromulus]

Its called "Chip-on-the-shoulder" syndrome

Yes, I agree with you, Rob.

After all the Welsh didn't get "turned over" for centuries and forbidden to speak their own language.... It is all in their imagination...

Oh, well.... Peace...