jakeob,

How are you doing mate ! so youre on CB again ? Rob has taken the bull by the horns on this one ( sorry Rob was it the ram by the horns ?) 2 things come to mind.

Just cos the girl is married and seperated, doesnt mean she wouldnt be the love of your life...

On the flip side of the coin, Rob is right, you could look at it this way, she is excess baggage and you are destined for aggro all the way down the line, but......

I have known situations where if a guy wants a girl enough in the Phils, he will do almost anything to have her, you don't know what you will do if you meet her in person, the fact she has a child is not relevant, one of my best pal's is happily married to a beautiful Filipina, and she has 2 lovely daughers, this lady I am talking about is absolutely fabulous, and is the perfect wife, you never know what you will do jakeob, what is going to happen if you dont pursue her , at the end of the day the choices you make are down to yourself, we can all give you advice as we see it, but mate if you like this girl, go for it, however here are the problems you will face.

1. She is married but in a legal seperation, this effectively means that either she is informally seperated, which she probably is, or she is legally seperated and has formal arrangements in place for custody of the child etc, either way you have a problem my freind.

2. She has a child which has a father in the Philippines, or he is a foreigner resident in the Philippines, either way, you are going to have to have a lot of patience and time on this one, getting the child to bond with you, also this lady may not wish to leave the Philippines if the child cannot leave, the father may object to his child leaving jurisdiction of the Philippines, which he is entitled to object to.

In my experience, there are literally thousands of pinays with children, who get dumped by Filipinos who move on to other women when the child is cramping their playboy lifestyle, these ladies get desperate because they hope by marriage to a kano, or a Euro that they will
be able to escape the life they are destined to have in the Philippines which is basically day to day and hand to mouth, however, they are
not always prepared for what is involved, and rarely have the knowledge or experience, to get through it, they are totally reliant on you
the unsuspecting kano or Euro to get them out of the Philippines, and there is nothing that cannot be fixed without yes you have got it
a large cash injection from you, sob stories in the Philippines are like bums...everyone has one.

3. If you are dissapointed that she is

a) married !

b) has a child

then dont progress this freindship, as your not ready to take on a pinay with a child, its expensive enough just courting and marrying a single Filpino, without a child as well.

If she is married, and informally seperated, for you to bring this lady to UK, thats assuming you meet, get on well, and you propose to her, then she would have to file for a Legal Anulment from the Pinoy, that can take anywhere from 6 months to 18 months, depending on many issues, the grounds for legally annuling a marriage in the Philippines are strict and cumbersome.

However, if you have a few quid, you can speed up the process, by bribing a number of officials, including judges and lawyers to move on it quickly, average is around £2000.00.

Am I putting you off mate ? good Im glad, I am trying to put you off, to see how much you like this lady,

If you do like her, and want to progress, politely tell me to mind my own business and I will respect you for that, anyway who am I ? whats it got to do with me....( its your life pal !)

Take care, and I wish you the best with your decision, love and marriage in the Philippines is an arduous path to tread, many have done it, many have given up, those that have done it, are glad they did, ( is that true Keith heheheheheh ?)

As always Pete tells it as it is...