I agree with John on this and suggest that in all discussions are made from this perspectiveOriginally Posted by Eljohno
You cannot really expect the bride's family to help pay for the wedding, the total cost is down to the guy.
However I think you can expect the bride to pay for her own wedding dress - mine did
I married in a Barong which by tradition was a gift to me from the principal sponsor
On our wedding invitations I included the words - "we have reserved xx seats for you" - hopefully this allows your guests to understand that it is not an open invitation to all their family - in the main this worked
