just pray and be calm!! try to tell frankly to your husband if you think that there is something wrong...don't hesitate to tell him the truth what is your feelings...
just pray and be calm!! try to tell frankly to your husband if you think that there is something wrong...don't hesitate to tell him the truth what is your feelings...
Firstly, I would tell him to please stop whilst you are away - and give him your reasons. Tell him it is so tough that you are far apart - and this is not helping.
However, what I would say is that I think there is nothing happening here. Why? Because, if there was - he wouldn't allow you to find out.
Or maybe covering his bases before she does......Originally Posted by Ady
I AGREE!!!!!Or maybe covering his bases before she does......
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Just remember - the people helping here, or causing more panic in your heart in some cases - don't know the true situation.
Talk to your husband.
Personally, in the very unlikely event that I was having an affair, there is no way that my gf based 7000 miles away would have the remotest idea of it. What would I gain from letting her know? And, if I was having an affair, why would I spend time and effort and money in getting a wife over from the Phils?
Why not tell him you are having some male colleagues or old school friends around to dinner? If he is trying to make you jealous, show how much it hurts.
Can see the logic in that but why if she is such a close friend has he not introducded her or has he?
I wanted my friends and family to know my wife, and they all wanted to know her its natural surely?
hello. i've got married recently and my mahal go back to UK a month after our wedding.
somethings bothering me, my mahal went back to UK and wev been apart for a few months now. just want to know something if its Brit's peoples culture to entertain friends always like inviting them over to their place for a dinner?
since im not there pa, he is lonely, and he would invite his friends/offis mate to cook and have dinner. then the following week, he will be with that friend again, and the following week again then a time in few days. this bothered me because this is not Filipino culture. or is it just im being jealous? you know girl's insticts? somtimes i will feel that something is going on. I would feel this when his girl friend (always same girl) would visit his house. is that normal there?
should i worry? I trust him, but its hard being apart. should this be jelousy? how will i deal this? like right now,we were chatting and that girl again knocked at his door and he said bye to me online. should I worry? how will I deal about this?
Not to worry at all!!! Its normal here especially among the professional work community based on my experience.
I've got a female friend whom I've known for over 10 years. She has got a boyfriend, but does visits me sometimes (on her own) as we have known each other even before she met her boyfriend - we went to university together. I've got several other lady friends too who do visit me from time to time. Other times, I've got my mates and collegues coming over for dinner/beer and vice versa.
This is typical for people living alone and away from parents. Also, me having a dance background means I have plenty of pretty female friends. I've had a chat with my wife (who is yet to join me), and she does get jealous easily too. But she is also very understanding.
Its all about trust and understanding cultural differences. Luckily, my wife is also into dancing!!
Cheers
I TOTALLY disagree!!! Including myself, I've got several other friends who have friends of the opposite sex, purely platonic! Please do not generalise.
It looks like you will have trouble trusting your wife if she wants to visit her friends.
Cheers
That is an outrageous comment borne on low self esteem and insecurities. I am sorry.
My best friend in work, my confidant is a woman. I have no interest in her in any other sense than being a friend.
I have lots of friends that are female. Blackpearl, if you are still reading this - then please don't heed that statement. It is as incorrect as calling a dog a cat.
But surely Ben B and Ady, Blackpearls Mahal would have introduced her?
A mate has recently met a Phill lady (nothing to do with me) and he introduces her to everyone and i know im the same even if it is online or telephone.
Im sure it would reasure Black pearl rather than going off line the mintue she is there as i understand it.
The guy is speaking to his life partner not a sales person for double glazing. Any friend would understand how important the time togeter is for any loving couple is let alone those thousands of miles away.
if im in your position, ill probably also feel desame way..hello. i've got married recently and my mahal go back to UK a month after our wedding.
somethings bothering me, my mahal went back to UK and wev been apart for a few months now. just want to know something if its Brit's peoples culture to entertain friends always like inviting them over to their place for a dinner?
since im not there pa, he is lonely, and he would invite his friends/offis mate to cook and have dinner. then the following week, he will be with that friend again, and the following week again then a time in few days. this bothered me because this is not Filipino culture. or is it just im being jealous? you know girl's insticts? somtimes i will feel that something is going on. I would feel this when his girl friend (always same girl) would visit his house. is that normal there?
should i worry? I trust him, but its hard being apart. should this be jelousy? how will i deal this? like right now,we were chatting and that girl again knocked at his door and he said bye to me online. should I worry? how will I deal about this?
Your situation is really hard, its really difficult to feel secure when your hubby is very far from you and you know that theres some woman around him...but try to trust him and think that you are now already his wife, who ever that woman is in his life, your still the most important person to him. She may can spend the whole day, night or week with him, but the moment you and your husband is already together,,,he will spend his whole life time with you....
but to make you feel better, like ever one here advice you,,,,try to talk to him....
keep on smiling...
I know it seems hard sometimes, but remember one thing, through every dark night, there's a bright day after that. So no matter how hard it gets, keep your chest out, keep your head up and handle it...
Yes, I agree with that. He should not go offline as soon as the woman enters. That is very rude. And it would reassure her. He is out of order going offline the instant his guest arrives. Very insensitive.
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