Quote Originally Posted by maria_and_matt View Post
i am sorry to hear about what happened to you... at least now you have learnt some sort of lesson, never trust anybody that easy. when it does not feel right then its probably not. i met my husband here in the uk about 9 years ago now, i have been divorced for about 2 years when i met him.. i have never asked him for anything, but he is a kind man and offered to help my family out, but when i noticed that my family was not doing anythin anymore and just sat around waiting for my husbands money every month i told my husband to stop helping out! my husband works for his money and i do not see why my family should just totally rely on my husband for support.

i hope things work out for you and new fiance. i better stop now cz any minute now i'm gonna have to type in capitals hahahaha.. goodluck and get that anger out of your heart start fresh and be happy...
every time i go over there i learn some lesson or other. i know i should really have considered getting out of that situation earlier, but with a first relationship with a filipina, i wasn't sure exactly what was expected of me. I didnt want to appear unfriendly or tight fisted to her or her family.

I saw some guys here get called tight for not giving enough monthly support to a fiancee. I still don't know what is too much to offer and whats being tight. I'll lean towards being tight in future