I JOINED A WEBSITE MARCH '05 LOOKING FOR FILIPINA. DIDNT HAVE MUCH JOY AND ON THE LAST DAY OF MY MEMBERSHIP, ONE CONTACTED ME. I THOUGHT IT COULD BE FATE. SO I RENEWED MY FEE TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH HER. WE CHATTED MOST DAYS AND USING YM. A MONTH OR TWO AFTER I MET HER, SHE LOST HER JOB IN THE INTERNET CAFE, SO I NEEDED TO START SUPPORTING HER. NOT MUCH BY SOME GUYS STANDARDS, JUST A LITTLE WHEN SHE ASKED. I'D NEVER BEEN ABROAD, BUT I GREW SO FOND OF THIS GIRL I REALLY THOUGHT SHE WAS THE ONE, I GOT A PASSPORT IN JUNE AND BOOKED TO MEET HER IN JAN 06.
SO I GOT THERE AND WE WENT TO HER CITY, CALBAYOG. I STAYED IN A HOTEL FOR 3 WEEKS THERE. THEY HAD NO ROOM AT HOME AND FRANKLY I COULDNT LIVE IN THEIR HOME. IT HAD NO ELECTRIC, NOT MUCH ROOF, RATS RUNNING AROUND THE FLOORS ALL DAY AND OVERHEAD TOO UPSTAIRS. CONSIDERING WE KNEW EACH OTHER ONLINE MANY MONTHS, SHE DIDNT SEEM VERY AFFECTIONATE OR ENTHUSIASTIC WHEN IT CAM TO BEDROOM TALK, AND SHE HAD A BF BEFORE ME SO I KNEW SHE WASNT A VIRGIN. WE MADE LOVE 3 TIMES IN 3 WEEKS IN THE HOTEL. NOT EXACTLY WHAT I WANTED BUT PUT IT DOWN TO HER BEING CAGEY AS WE ONLY JUST MET IN PERSON. MAYBE SHE DIDNT WANT TO COME ACROSS AS EASY. ANYWAY THINGS WENT FINE, WE GOT ON WELL ENOUGH TOGETHER AND SEEMED TO ENJOY EACH OTHERS COMPANY. I TOOK HER AND HER PARENTS TO BOHOL IN THE LAST FEW DAYS OF MY STAY AS THEY NEVER TRAVELLED THERE.
WHEN I GOT HOME TO THE UK, I COULDNT HELP FEELING BAD ABOUT THEIR HOME AND SUGGESTED TO HER I HELP THEM FIND SOMEWHERE BETTER, NOTHING FLASH, JUST RAT FREE AND CLEAN. SHE LOOKED AROUND GAVE ME A FEW OPTIONS AND EVENTUALLY I PAID FOR ONE, ONY 200,000PESO AND I PAID A LITTLE EXTRA FOR FURNITURE ETC.
I ALSO BOUGHT HER A COMPUTER, NOT SURE IF THAT WAS HER IDEA OR MINE. OFCOURSE I HAD TO PAY INTERNET CONNECTIONS ALSO BUT IT MEANT WE COULD CHAT MORE WHEN I WAS HOME. THINGS CARRIED ON AS USUAL CHATTING MOST DAYS UNLESS THERE WAS BAGYO OR BROWNOUT.
I BEGAN GETTING CONCERNED ABOUT THE AMOUNT OF TIMES SHE WAS ASKING FOR BILLS TO BE PAID AND THE AMOUNTS. IN THE PROVINCES, I KNEW BILLS ARE NOT SO BIG, BUT SHE SEEMED TO ASK A LOT. ANYWAY I PAID AS I TRUSTED HER TO BE HONEST WITH ME. WE KEPT CHATTING AND PLANNING MARRIAGE NEXT VISIT DECEMBER 06. BEFORE THAT TIME THEY KEPT ASKING MY HELP FOR VARIOUS BILLS AND ALSO ONE TIME SHE SAID HER PAPA WAS COUGHING BLOOD AND NEEDED TO GO TO CEBU FOR CHECK UP AND MEDICINE . I GOT SUSPICIOUS WHEN SHE ASKED 30,000 FOR THE CHECK UP . IT SEEMED HIGH. JUST RECENTLY I GOT CHECK UPS IN DUMAGUETE FOR 200 BUT I DIDNT KNOW THE COSTS BACK THEN, AND WASNT SURE WHAT HE HAD WRONG, IF ANYTHING. HE SMOKED LIKE A CHIMNEY SO I FELT EVEN MORE MIFFED HAVING TO PAY FOR HIS SELF INFLICTED AILMENTS. I WAS OBVIOUSLY BUYING HIS FAGS TOO. A MONTH OR SO BEFORE I WAS DUE TO GO THERE I TOLD HER I WAS POSTPONING THE WEDDING COS I WASN'T HAPPY WITH THE WAY THINGS WERE GOING. I WAS WORKING MY ASS OFF HERE ALL DAY TO PAY FOR A HOUSE OF LAY-ABOUTS AND GOD KNOWS HOW MANY OTHER HOUSEHOLDS. I SAID LETS DISCUSS THINGS WHEN I GET THERE AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.
TO CUT A LONG STORY SHORT, I GOT THERE DEC 06. STAYED IN THE HOME I BOUGHT, IN MY OWN ROOM. WHILE I WAS THERE SEEING HOW THEY LIVED I GOT MORE DISILLUSIONED. I'D BEEN TOLD HER MAMA HAD TRIED TO MAKE BUISNESS SELLING FOOD, THATS WHY THE GIRL ASKED ME EXTRA MONEY FOR INGREDIENTS FROM TIME TO TIME. BUT WHEN I WAS THERE I SAW NO-ONE ATTEMPTING TO DO ANY WORK. THEY JUST SIT AROUND LIKE LORDS AND LADIES. HER 2 BROTHERS ALSO. I MANAGED SEX 4 TIMES IN THAT 3 WEEKS, NO BETTER THAN PREVIOUS YEAR REALLY, SHE DIDNT SHOW ANY SIGN OF PASSION, JUST WENT THROUGH THE MOTION OF STRAIGHT SEX, NOTHING MORE, NO EXTRAS AS IT WERE. THEN SHE ROLLED OVER AND WENT TO SLEEP, TALK ABOUT ROLE REVERSAL. ANYWAY WHILE I WAS THERE IN DECEMBER, SHE TOLD ME HER PAPA WOULD LIKE A BOAT TO CATCH FISH. I THOUGHT YESSS, THEY CAN SUPPORT THEMSELVES THEN, SO I BOUGHT IT AND NET AND LAMPS ETC. BAD MOVE, THEY HARDLY CAUGHT ANYTHING AND NOT ENOUGH TO MAKE MUCH TO SELL. I BOUGHT 2 BICYCLES THINKING IT WOULD SAVE MONEY ON TRICYCLE FARES, BUT SHE WAS TOO LAZY TO RIDE IT MOST TIMES UNLESS WE WENT TOGETHER, EVEN THEN SHE SAID HER LEGS ACHED. MY LAST DAY ARRIVED, HER PAPA APPROACHED ME, HINTING THEY HAD A PLAN TO REBUILD THE BEACH SIDE OF THE HOUSE, AND MAKE A NEW ROOM THAT WOULD BE FOR ME. I NODDED AND ASKED HIM TO SEND ME THE PLANS. BUT I THOUGHT THEY SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT THEY HAD. OBVIOUSLY NOT, THEY WANTED THAT BIT EXTRA OUT OF ME.
I WENT TO CEBU TO GET THE PLANE HOME WITH HER AND HER MAMA. I WAS DUE TO FLY XMAS DAY. HAD A NICE NIGHT WITH THEM XMAS EVE. XMAS DAY MY GF GOT MOODY COS I WANTED TO BUY WATER AS MY PEE WAS BROWN AND I FELT TERRIBLY DEHYDRATED. WE WERE WALKING AROUND TO FIND A LARGE BOTTLE, SHE GOT FRUMPY COS WE FOUND SMALL AND I SAID I NEEDED MORE I'M ALMOST DEAD, AND WALKING THE STREETS ON A BOILING DAY WASNT HELPING. SHE MOOCHED OFF TO THE HOTEL WITHOUT ME. I HAD TO GO BACK AND BUY ALL THE SMALL BOTTLES OF WATER I COULD FIND AND SOME BREAD. I GOT TO THE HOTEL ROOM, SHE WAS NOT TALKING TO ME, HER MAMA TOO. THEY JUST SAT THERE IGNORING ME. I OFFERED THEM WATER AND BREAD, THEY TOOK IT BUT SAID NOTHING. I WAS IN A RAGE, I WANTED TO SHOWER AND JUST LEAVE. I SAT THERE AGES WITH NO-ONE SPEAKING TO ME WHEN I ASKED A QUESTION. I GOT A SHOWER AND WHEN I CAME OUT THEY SAID LETS WAIT DOWNSTAIRS FOR THE TAXI TO THE AIRPORT, AS ITS COOLER. SO WE WENT DOWNSTAIRS AND SAT IN SILENCE AGAIN. I FINALLY SNAPPED, I GRABBED MY BAG, THANKED HER MOTHER FOR LETTING ME STAY IN THE HOME 3 WEEKS, AND SAID BYE TO THE GIRL. SHE ASKED IF I WAS GOING ALONE TO THE AIRPORT AND I SAID OFCOURSE AS NO-ONE WAS TALKING TO ME. I WALKED OUT AND HAILED A CAB.IT WASNT A GREAT XMAS DAY
I DID A LOT OF THINKING AT HOME IN THE UK. THINGS NEVER REALLY PICKED UP, AND I WASNT TOO KEEN ON CARRYING ON THE WAY THEY ACTED TO ME. I FELT SHE WASNT FIGHTING TO KEEP ME EITHER. IN THE END I TOLD HER, SELL ALL THE THINGS I LEFT BEHIND THERE, COS I WASNT SUPPORTING THEM AGAIN, WE WERE THROUGH.
A MONTH LATER I GOT NEW GF. WHILE I WAS VISITTING HER IN SEPT, WE LOOKED AT MY EX'S PROFILE IN FRIENDSTER, SHE WAS PICTURED WITH A KID, HER OWN SHE SAID. I DID THE MATHS. SOMETHING DIDNT ADD UP UNLESS IT WAS MY KID AND EVEN THEN THE MATHS WERE TIGHT. TIME PASSED, I NEVER HAD MUCH CONTACT WITH MY EX,I DIDNT NEED TO AS I HAD A LOVING AFFECTIONATE NEW GF. I DID FROM TIME TO TIME ASK MY EX HOW SHE WAS IN OFFLINE MESSAGES. SHE'D REPLY OK OR SOMETHING BASIC. JUST MORE RECENTLY I WAS ONLINE AND SHE PAGED ME. I ASKED HER OUTRIGHT, "GIVE ME THE TRUTH ABOUT THAT KID". SHE TOLD ME AT THE TIME I WENT THERE DEC06, SHE WAS ALREADY PREGNANT FROM A JAPANESE GUY SHE MET ONLINE, SHE SAID IN JUNE. IT COULD BE 05 OR 06 IM NOT SURE, BUT SHE SAID IT WAS WHEN SHE HAD WORK, SO 05 IS MORE LIKELY. SHE MUST HAVE BEEN CHATTING TO THE GUY MOST OF THE TIME I KNEW HER AND ALL THE TIME I WAS SUPPORTING HER. I DONT KNOW HOW MANY TIMES THEY MET, BUT IT SEEMS THEY MUST HAVE SLEPT TOGETHER DURING THE AUGUST 06, AT A TIME WHEN WE WERE STILL TALKING MARRIAGE AND SHE KNEW I WOULD BE ARRIVING DECEMBER . I NEVER IMAGINED SHE COULD DO THAT TO ME AFTER ALL I GAVE THEM. THE SACRIFICE OF GOING THERE 2 TIMES AND ALL THE HELP AND SUPPORT. ALL THE KINDNESS I SHOWED THEM. SHE WAS UP TO THIS FOR MONTHS IF NOT YEARS. THE FAMILY MUST HAVE KNOWN. I'M SURE AT LEAST HER MOM WOULD HAVE KNOWN SHE WAS PREGNANT WHEN I WAS THERE. I NEVER HAD A CLUE. THEY JUST LET ME GO THERE SO I WOULD KEEP PAYING SUPPORT, AND MAYBE BUY THEM THE BOAT AND WHATEVER ELSE THEY COULD GET BEFORE I FOUND OUT THE TRUTH, OR MAYBE THEY WOULD HAVE CLAIMED IT WAS MINE IF WE HADNT SPLIT FIRST. I DONT REALLY CARE NOW BUT SOMEHOW I STILL FEEL SO ANGRY ABOUT THEM. A CHATMATE CONTACTED MY EX TO ASK WHY SHE DID THAT TO ME. SHE WAS TOLD " IT'S JUST MY STYLE". HMM STYLE? WHERE'S THE STYLE THERE? IN CHEATING YOUR FIANCEE FOR MONTHS, NOT ONLY FOR MONEY BUT WITH SOME OTHER FOREIGN GUY. SO MANY FILIPINA SYMPATHISE WITH MY STORY, THEY ARE SHOCKED AND ASHAMED. I JUST FEEL ANGRY AND FIND IT HARD TO LET IT GO WITHOUT FINDING SOME WAY TO HURT HER. I HATE TO SEE CRIMINALS WALK AWAY. I LIKE BRONSON GETTING THE BADDY IN DEATH WISH, I LOVE IT WHEN DIRTY HARRY GETS HIS MAN. I DON'T LIKE CHEATS AND I THINK THEY DESERVE ALL THEY GET IN RETURN. I CAN'T THINK OF A WAY TO GET EVEN A LITTLE EVEN. GIRLS TELL ME GOD WILL GET EVEN FOR ME, BUT I'M NOT RELIGIOUS, I PREFER TO DO THE JOB MYSELF IN SOME WAY. I'VE TRIED NAMING AND SHAMING HER AND HER FAMILY, IT'S ALL I CAN DO, BUT I'M NOT SURE THEY'D CARE. HER NAME IS MILLICENT ANN ORTIZ. OF CALBAYOG SAMAR. YOU CAN SEE HER IN FRIENDSTER. SHE REMOVED HER PICTURES FROM VIEW TO HIDE HER FACE AND PUT HER KIDS PIC THERE INSTEAD, NICE MOVE TO SHIELD BEHIND A KID HUH? ANYWAY I OPENED A NEW PROFILE IN HER NAME AND HOPE EVERYONE IN CALBAYOG WILL GET TO SEE IT SOMEDAY SO THEY KNOW WHAT THAT FAMILY ARE LIKE. MAYBE SOMEPEOPLE THINK I'M BEING PETTY OVER A FEW QUID, BUT ITS NOT THE MONEY, IT'S THE PRINCIPLE OF HER DELIBERATELY CHEATING. I'M NOT THE FIRST TO BE DONE OVER LIKE A KIPPER, I WONT BE THE LAST. CHATMATES TOLD ME BE THANKFUL I GOT RID OF THAT FAMILY WHEN I DID. I AM, COS MY NEW FIANCEE IS DIFFERENT CLASS TO HER IN EVERY WAY. MORE LOVING, SEXY, AFFECTIONATE AND VERY VERY HONEST. BUT I CANT STOP LOOKING FOR THAT LAST WAY OF GETTING THEM BACK, JUST ENOUGH TO NOT LET THEM GET AWAY WITHOUT ANY SCARS. IF I KNEW A WITCH DOCTOR I'D PUT A CURSE ON THEM I'M REALLY SO WOUND UP. I KNOW I'M ONLY HURTING MYSELF WHILE THEY DONT GIVE 2THEY SEE THEMSELVES AS WINNERS HAVING FOOLED A WHITE GUY. WELL SOME WHITE GUYS LIKE TO FIGHT BACK. IF ONLY I COULD. THANKS FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ MY LONNGGGGGGGGGG STORY. PLEASE BE CAREFUL GUYS. DON'T OFFER HELP TOO READILY AND BE SUSPICIOUS OF PEOPLE WHO ASK IT ALSO. WOEMN TELL ME IF A GIRL REALLY LOVES YOU, SHE WILL NOT ASK ANY MONEY OR MATERIAL THINGS. I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THAT, BUT BEAR IT IN MIND
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