I Find It Hard To Forget Or Forgive

[nomorericepleas]

better to be tight than broke ... get to learn to know the girl first before you help, you are a kind man but you also have to be wise! it would be different if you were married to her and you decided to help out, but bf/gf relationship i dont think you really are expected to help out financially.. how are things with you now?

things are just plodding on, i had some big fights with my latest fiancee cos she's highly strung. she had a bad past herself and she's very worried about people. she lacks trust and also has developed some kind of attitude that means i have to give her attention most of the day. If i don't i get the silent treatment or some smart comments .

we are both down today cos her visit visa was rejected. Her annulment is also dragging on with hearing after hearing, and i don't actually know the purpose of these hearings. It just seems to be a waste of money and time. It certainly wastes my money having to send my fiancee to Manila to attend.

I just want things to get settled into some routine. Maybe now her visa was rejected she can just set up a buisness and wait for me arriving in december, then we'll try the visa again, maybe after marriage. I'm not sure why her being married to me will guarantee her going home again though, but it might help.

[keithAngel]

It just seems to be a waste of money and time. It certainly wastes my money having to send my fiancee to Manila to attend.

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Attend what? How many times and from were?

[nomorericepleas]

Attend what? How many times and from were?

all i get to know is she is asked to attend "hearings" to do with her annulment.
she told me after the last hearing, it just had to pass the judge, so she has hearings on the 7th and 14th or august. ( the judge was apparently out of the country on holiday for the first so what happened?).she tells me also that there will be another hearing on the 11th september.

I do not have any idea what happens in these annulment hearings. just a lot of pointless banter making a 10 minute process last for years. She says there is so much said in the hearings, so she cant tell me what goes on. very vague and she's never been one for explaining things clearly. Basically she can't be bothered i think.

she has to travel from negros to manila and currently has to stay for several weeks in Manila due to the visa application and the 2 hearings a week apart. I gave up asking now whats happening with the anullment, cos i never learn anything.

[keithAngel]

all i get to know is she is asked to attend "hearings" to do with her annulment.
she told me after the last hearing, it just had to pass the judge, so she has hearings on the 7th and 14th or august. ( the judge was apparently out of the country on holiday for the first so what happened?).she tells me also that there will be another hearing on the 11th september.

I do not have any idea what happens in these annulment hearings. just a lot of pointless banter making a 10 minute process last for years. She says there is so much said in the hearings, so she cant tell me what goes on. very vague and she's never been one for explaining things clearly. Basically she can't be bothered i think.

she has to travel from negros to manila and currently has to stay for several weeks in Manila due to the visa application and the 2 hearings a week apart. I gave up asking now whats happening with the anullment, cos i never learn anything.

The reason i asked was I remembered somthing I had read whilst reseaching this subject , perhaps other members who have been through the process can comment?


Q. What are the stages of the trial where my presence in Court is necessary?

GTALAW: Your presence in court is absolutely necessary during pre-trial conference and during the time when you have to give your oral testimony. So it appears that you have to appear in Court at least twice.

Q. It is very difficult for me to leave my work, not to mention that it is also too expensive to come home just to attend the hearing on my Petition. Is there a way for me not to attend the trial?

GTALAW: None. You have to attend the trial. But we can try to schedule your testimony immediately after the pre-trial conference. This will minimize your travel expenses because you only have to come to the Philippines at least once.

http://www.gtalawphil.com/Philippine...nt%20101_6.htm

As i understood it one would only file away from the place of residency if that speeded up the process due to court availability

[flomike]

do you think sometimes its the foreigners fault that's why some filipina is asking too much money bec some foreigners keep on giving thousands of money without a question??? Or when going to Phils, the way of spending is too much (or some are tyring to impress the girl and her family??) Though I don't give all the blame to foreigners of course it takes two to tango. I am not saying I never asked money to my Brit husband when we're still BF/GF back in the Phils but my husband never gave me any money at all till we met in person and we're already engage and not thousands. From the very starts of our relationship my husband is very open about his financial status and his lifestyle here in UK and even ask me if I don't mind working when Im in UK.

For five years here in UK I know how hard my husband work to meet our standard way of living so if I don't work no way my husband can spare a money for my family back home if they need it..since I am working he doesn't mind how much money I want to send as he said I don't need to save money for my self its his obligation to make sure I am okay here

[gazlou]

...since I am working he doesn't mind how much money I want to send as he said I don't need to save money for my self its his obligation to make sure I am ok here



Lucky you.

[flomike]

...since I am working he doesn't mind how much money I want to send as he said I don't need to save money for my self its his obligation to make sure I am ok here



Lucky you.

im really lucky to have my husband he doesn't have the money to buy me this and that but the unconditional love he has for me is unbelievable

[patti1227]

You've opened the doors of romance and in my own standpoint, that's a good sign. Somehow, you have already forgiven the people concerned and forgotten the dark side of the story.

When all else fail, don't ever lose faith in you and in the magical world of romance. Our lives are full of reasons to enjoy, to suffer, to fight and to give up. However...there is only one good reason why life is so ever beautiful. It is when you live life by love.