If i wr the wife, il tell my husband about it immediately rather than he will know it first from that woman.Tell the husband the real feelings why hv done it and just want it to be stopped.In that point also u will know wr the wife stands based on what reaction he may have wn telling him about it.If the wife feels that she is the priority than that woman,stop feeling insecure and getting jelous.Just trust ur husband as long as u dont caught him in action...Just made urself good, trust and believe urself to take out insecurity.Coz sometimes insecurity is the cause if jelousy.