I can't imagine someone being that bad - methinks you are pulling a few legs. If he is that bad - just get rid.
I can't imagine someone being that bad - methinks you are pulling a few legs. If he is that bad - just get rid.
23.........
plus points............ = good in the sack.....
Anything else sucks.
Don't bother taking this relationship any further. He is not worth it and will never change.
I suspect that his bad behaviour is linked to his bad odour.Originally Posted by traveller
Can you explain this odour a bit more? Does he take regular showers?
what is the source of the smell? Excessive Sweating? - there are special stuff for that. Standard deodorants will actually make the smell worse mainly due to the added perfume.
You need aluminium chloride hexahydrate based products. Or even Botox to stop problem areas from sweating too much. This gives ~12 weeks protection.
Its normally the bacteria feeding on the sweat causing all that bad smell. Best to see the doctor. You cannot stop bacteria, but you can stop the sweat glands from working.
Best Wishes,
do not put up with his crap! you deserve better but i guess you know that already. no amount of love will be enough to put up with what you have to put up with him, odor can be resolved but his behaviour is evil!
Q: What's the difference between a Scouser and a coconut?Poor guy............by the description you'd think he was a Manc
A: One's thick and hairy, and the other's a coconut.
No More Kids!!
After having their 11th child, a scouser couple decided that was enough, as the social wouldn't buy them a bigger bed and they weren't strong enough to nick one, the husband went to his doctor and told him that he and his wife didn't want to have any more children.
The doctor told him there was a procedure called a vasectomy that would fix the problem but it was expensive. The doctor then went on to explain that a less costly alternative was to go home, get a firework, light it, put it in a beer can, then hold the can up to his ear and count to 10.
The Scouser said to the doctor,
"I may not be the smartest guy in the world, but I don't see how putting a firework in a beer can next to my ear is going to help me."
"Trust me, it will do the job", said the doctor.
So the man went home, lit a banger and put it in a beer can. He held the can up to his ear and began to count: "1, 2, 3, 4, 5," at which point he paused, placed the beer can between his legs so he could continue counting on his other hand...
This procedure also works in Watford, Birmingham , parts of Essex,
Sunderland and Aberdeen and anywhere in Wales.....
First of all I would like to apologize to the forum members here for the lauguage I am about to use.
GOOD G_D Almighty, Traveller have you listened to what you have been saying to us. This man and I use the term loosly should never be considered fit for any lady to associate with. I cryed when I read this thread because this is the same road my late sister took 30 years ago and it cost her her life. Everyone knew what my sisters boyfriend was capable of and he proved us right. On the day that my sister was killed, I had a heart to heart talk with my sister and I begged her to run, as fast as her feet would run, away from this animal but she would not do it because she said she loved him and she thought he would change.
Now I am begging you to do the same, run as fast as your feet will carry you and DO NOT LOOK back. I do not want to read your name in some obituary that I was right about your boyfriend.
he's hitting you now and has little respect for you, so why be a punch bag for him, i hope you don't have kids with him, it will not only be you he's punching, so if you will not leave him, think about what kinda life any kids would have, and do it for them, if not for yourself
time he sorted himself out and grew up
i wish...but the thing is i have just covered the surface...there are more to this that he has done...he is not the normal type of guy...and seriously i havent met any person like this before in my life
but you might wonder...why i stick to this ... is because i developed feelings for him...he is nice online...but in real life...he turned out to be like what i mentioned
this hitting thing only happened once...and it wasnt very painfulhe's hitting you now and has little respect for you, so why be a punch bag for him, i hope you don't have kids with him, it will not only be you he's punching, so if you will not leave him, think about what kinda life any kids would have, and do it for them, if not for yourself
time he sorted himself out and grew up
thanks a lot, i like these suggestions
Wether painful or not, the simple act of hitting a woman is abhorrent, disgraceful, distasteful and extremely cruel.
He is nothing else than a bully and not worth your time or affection.
Just like other members have suggested, I would recommend you to dump him, as the next time he beats you, it could be very paiful, or may even kill you.
The ball is in your court, nobody can make the decisions for you but yourself......
he takes regular showers...he actually takes showers quite often ... after workin out etc... i think he excessively sweats...and when i said that he should put deodorant...he said that it only makes him sweat more
about the bacteria...maybe its linked to him wearing dark clothes and not being able to wash them very well so the odor there is compounded
you think there is a connection to his behavior? maybe...thats why he has this bad attitude cos people are always "against" him
also...i was talking to a friend from the uk...he said that he was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome...and that maybe my bf also has aspergers syndrome...i read up on wiki and true enough he has some of the symptoms like...not being able to smell himself, very poor handwriting, antisocial behavior and extreme interest in one area, and as a kid he said he only talked to himself and kept going around in circles for no reason
anyway when we talked before...he never told me that he has some mental probs...but when we talked recently he said that his mom actually sent him several times to a psychologist...but they just mainly gave up afterwards...
and to my mind, i was like...oh that explains a lot
btw, part of the reason that i pity him sometimes is because his father died when he was just about seven
so i really give extreme patience and understanding towards him
Oh for God's sake. Stop making excuses for him. Listen to yourself, you are given the impression you have no free will and you're the complete loser not him.
Keith - Administrator
Yup, typical profile of an abused woman that doesn't want any help and will end up getting severely hurt.....Oh for God's sake. Stop making excuses for him. Listen to yourself, you are given the impression you have no free will and you're the complete loser not him.
i've known my misses for more than 8yrs, been married nearly 6yrs, and i've never hit her or even thought of it
Either you are too slow, or she is very fast.........i've known my misses for more than 8yrs, been married nearly 6yrs, and i've never hit her or even thought of it
Hitting women is one of the lowest things that a so called "man" could do to a person.
she's more of a thrower than a puncherEither you are too slow, or she is very fast.........
Hitting women is one of the lowest things that a so called "man" could do to a person.
thrown a couple of things, but bad eye sight, missed me each time
still saving to laser her eyes,,, i could be saving for a long time....................
When I showed this thread to my Filipina wife her reaction was "it's a wind up". No-one in their right mind will put up with what is described. If it is, then well done, you have fooled a lot of people! If not then please get out now, right now, before any more damage is done. Any future with such a person will surely be a disaster. Women often think that with love and devotion they can turn a bad guy into a good one. Almost invariably they fail, end up pregant, abused and in your case maybe alone in a strange country. There are many much better guys available, imperfect of course, but much better. Don't worry about the bedroom! Your second will probably be better, and if not, then that is something you can work on together. There are MUCH more important things than that. My own daughter lived with a lazy drunk, who physically abused her. She convinced herself she could turn him into a good man and tolerated his behaviour for years before it got so bad he was arrested and banned from within 5 miles of her. Now she has big debts and has to start again. Don't put yourself in such a situation, get out now before it gets worse. Be strong and just do it.
well unfortunately this situation is true...why would i waste my time writing this in this rant...anyway thats the reaso nwhy i dont wanna share this prob with anyone else because this is the same thing they would tell me...anyway as for what your saying...u may say its easy to leave him its not! especially if its been the only person in ur life for 4 yrs...plus...i tried...but what did i get...i started dating this guy who told me he doest have a gf..then i found out that he has a gf...and then this other guy who i met as well, after 1 day of meeting just wanna have sex, thats just insensitive to accuse its not true...and also i dont think this is an advice column but a rant page... i might as well get out of this forum
http://www.crcl.org.uk/ 01206-769795
"CARA is a confidential and non-judgemental support service for women and young people who have been raped, sexually abused or assaulted either recently or in the past and could involve a stranger, friend or family member"
The people I just telling you the truth as they see it from the Information provided.
The truth hurts sometimes but its the most vauable type advice in the world.
i dont really have a prob with the advices...but what really struck me the most is this comment that its a "wind up" - i dont really know what that means...but from context...im thinking that they think its not true...and accusing me of fooling people...thats too much
maybe ill just rant on my own in my diary or whatever
im done with this
maybe you just don't like what people are telling you, you want advice, that's what you got, or did you want people to tell you, hang on things will be ok ?
but things can work out fine, will not be easy, some on here have had a harder time than you, and it worked out, but you've got doubts, or why would you ask ?
I am not accusing you at all. It is simply that my wife found what you had to say so extreme that she could not beleve anyone would have put up with it. As you have confirmed that you are, then of course, it is your choice to ignore the universal advice being given to you. I can understand your reluctance because it is not easy to accept that what you have been doing may be a mistake. However I trust you will accept that the comments made are all in good faith and given to help. Maybe after some quiet relection you will get some benefit from them. It reminds me of the story of the proud Mum watching her soldier son marching with his colleagues on the parade ground. She turns to her neighbour to claim "isn't he wonderful, he is the only one marching in step". Sometimes we are so blinded by love that the truth, although obvious to everyone else, escapes us.
You posted it in the RANT section because you AGREE with what everyone has said, but keeping find excuses to stay. Leaving is easy, you walk out the door and don't look back. Simple. Follow what your subconsious is telling you for a change, that is the part of the brain that is seldom wrong.
Keith - Administrator
Are you both British?
well i am
Sis sorry for saying this but i think you are experiencing battered wife syndrome loving despite the abuse and violence,his violence wont stop it will just escalate.My advice to you leave him while you still can and love yourself.Take care
True love waits.
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