Am I just being paranoid or is something wrong?

[joebloggs]

This made me wonder if others were having some kind of input, maybe telling her that she was wasting her time waiting for me.

could well be, but also her parents could have told her to leave you alone, if they have found out she has a local b/f. honour and respect still means alot to many Filipino families.

when my misses over heard my then g/f chatting to her sister, about marrying a whitey, i got a email from her mom, nicely telling me to bugger off

[PeterB]

She's from Davao and says its about 4 hours away by bus. I did believe her about the phone reception/no internet thing because when I was there for the first week her parents were away in the province and she said she didnt know when they'd be back because there was no way of contacting them. One day her mum and dad walked in and everybody looked surprised and excited.

Okay, I did suspect, from what you said, that she was somewhere on Mindanao. Yes, there are very remote areas well within 4 hours travel from Davao.

We have a friend here who was working away from home - even his wife had not heard from him for three weeks and had no idea when to expect him home, when he turned up one day.

Likewise, my father-in-law visits his farm 'at the mountain' and we have no contact from him for a week or more.

could well be, but also her parents could have told her to leave you alone, if they have found out she has a local b/f. honour and respect still means alot to many Filipino families.

Indeed ... parents might tell her that even if she has no local b/f - indeed, many friends and family almost convinced Ruby that she wouldn't see me again after my first visit. The respect within families here would almost compel her to comply. Perhaps she can only attempt to chat with you surreptitiously, while none of the family are around.

I'm sure that you were aware of how many beautiful Dabawenians were giving you admiring glances while you were here - if the worst does happen, get yourself back here and try again!