Can you forgive someone who has deeply hurt you?

[Jay&Zobel]

Only with GREAT difficulty ... and even then, a lot would depend upon the circumstances and/or the manner in which he/she/they did so.

NO !!....

Sorry, But there are some boundaries that can not be crossed,it is a matter of personal principles ..... Phil...

I suppose if I were to be truly honest with myself here, Phil, I would have to say ""

I think yes in time......

... hmm, perhapsss ... again, depending on the nature of the hurt. But, on balance, I'm still in agreement with Phil's reasoning.

For me yes .... I'm thankful to them they made me strong person. And forgiving is for me is one key to be more HAPPY.

The priest told me when i asked for an advice when I'm deeply hurt and very depressed. He said forgive him and stop thinking about what happened because its like a wound if you keep touching or scratching it will not heal and will always hurt you. And dont forget to pray to God and ask for help to forget someone because it's not really easy that's why we have TIME. Time to heal.

Sound advice from a much respected figure, I have to admit! Even so, there are certain things that happened to me in my working life which I find hard to dismiss 20 and more years on. Nor can I forget the bullying I was subjected to at school - from teachers and fellow pupils alike - upwards of half a century ago. The memory of such treatment, alas is never likely to fade.

However, we can agree to disagree here as, after all, debate is what this (or indeed any kind of forum) is all about. So I would like to extend a warm welcome to you.

haha haha... Make up your mind Arthur lol...

SO I SEE YOUR ANSWER IS: IT DEPENDS LOL..

[Arthur Little]

haha haha... Make up your mind Arthur lol...

SO I SEE YOUR ANSWER IS: IT DEPENDS LOL..

Women are allowed to change their minds ... so why shouldn't MEN be?
Actually, you're probably correct, Zobel. Based on certain 'life experiences' [probably best forgotten] my initial reaction was to vote 'No' but, I guess - having gone through the many and varied responses with a "fine toothcomb" - I'm now beginning to feel more inclined to lean towards 'It Depends'. But would you interpret such a "change of heart" as 'Maybe'? And CAN I still change my vote before close of poll without disrupting the figures already submitted?

Incidentally, I'd like to commend you on raising such a well-thought-out topic for debate. You don't happen to be a behavioural psychologist by any chance, do you?

[Jay&Zobel]

haha haha... Make up your mind Arthur lol...

SO I SEE YOUR ANSWER IS: IT DEPENDS LOL..

Women are allowed to change their minds ... so why shouldn't MEN be?

hahaha... yep, of course you are allowed to change your mind, lol...

Actually, you're probably correct, Zobel. Based on certain 'life experiences' [probably best forgotten] my initial reaction was to vote 'No' but, I guess - having gone through the many and varied responses with a "fine toothcomb" - I'm now beginning to feel more inclined to lean towards 'It Depends'. But would you interpret such a "change of heart" as 'Maybe'?

That's the thing! it's just so confusing. My heart is telling me to just forgive & forget but my ego is so saying: FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, YOU HAVE HURT BY THEM WHY BOTHER!!! GRRRR... (they might hurt me again...)

CAN I still change my vote before close of poll without disrupting the figures already submitted?

I don't know how to change the poll plus there aint a deadline for voting too...

Incidentally, I'd like to commend you on raising such a well-thought-out topic for debate. You don't happen to be a behavioural psychologist by any chance, do you?

Thank you and no I am not a psycholigist lol I just randomly asked it... lol...