Good morning

[New Shoes]

Hello and welcome to the forum.

I read your post and I have to say that in your situation, I would not be looking to get married at this moment in time. It sounds as though you are, or very nearly on your knees with the jealousy and her general insecurity. Four months is not an insignificant amount of time for her to get used to the UK and also to be re-assured, constantly by the sounds of it, by you and your actions.

I'd like to say that things would get better by being married, but my gut feeling is that her jealousy / tampo would continue. Don't forget, ALL couples need to have some time away from their partner ie hobbies, social groups etc. It's a healthy part of being in a committed relationship. Can you honestly say that the way things are at the moment you would feel happy for them to continue as they are for, maybe for years to come?

I realise that as far as the fiance visa is concerned, time may not be on your side with regard to the wedding, but you have the rest of your life to consider. Think long and hard....................

[scott&ligaya]

Hi there, New shoes saved me the post, very good advice

[Jay&Zobel]

I personally think that, secretly, she wants to go back home.

I think so too

Hello and welcome to the forum.

I read your post and I have to say that in your situation, I would not be looking to get married at this moment in time. It sounds as though you are, or very nearly on your knees with the jealousy and her general insecurity. Four months is not an insignificant amount of time for her to get used to the UK and also to be re-assured, constantly by the sounds of it, by you and your actions.

I'd like to say that things would get better by being married, but my gut feeling is that her jealousy / tampo would continue. Don't forget, ALL couples need to have some time away from their partner ie hobbies, social groups etc. It's a healthy part of being in a committed relationship. Can you honestly say that the way things are at the moment you would feel happy for them to continue as they are for, maybe for years to come?

I realise that as far as the fiance visa is concerned, time may not be on your side with regard to the wedding, but you have the rest of your life to consider. Think long and hard....................

Hi there, New shoes saved me the post, very good advice

I am so sorry if you feel that way, lots have said that it's the insecurity thing, the homesickness and et al but I agree with New Shoes' advice: MARRIAGE IS FOR LIFE, will you want to be spending your whole life with someone who will always scrutinize you? judge you? and would not trust you?...

Let me share this quote:
Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savour, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening. ~Maya Angelou

HMMM... so therefore, jealousy/insecurity is a mental cancer ?

If you really think "she's the one" and she thinks "you're the one" then let us all hope for the best, that's all we can do really...

But if not... you still have few weeks to think before the wedding to take place...