just been given too much truth......

[Matt7]

I had a reply written out, but I'm pretty annoyed about this and it probably wouldn't have helped much so I decided against posting it. I will however say I think you've overreacted and were massively out of line for asking her to take an STD test. I think you need to give your mentality a complete overhaul

[pacificelectric]

I think you've overreacted and were massively out of line for asking her to take an STD test. I think you need to give your mentality a complete overhaul

We discussed that extensively and decided that for our mutual peace of mind we should both do it and this is what we did. This type of precaution is meant to avoid painful aftermaths.

[Matt7]

We discussed that extensively and decided that for our mutual peace of mind we should both do it and this is what we did. This type of precaution is meant to avoid painful aftermaths.

So what precaution could you take for not making mountains from molehills? Only fair really


I just don't understand, were you posting for sympathy? You're over twice my age and you find it so hard to accept a widow having sex with a separated man, over 8 years ago? Primary school stuff

[Sim11UK]

Pacificelectric, you're a complex character.
I don't get this thread at all?...You've actually made me feel quite angry...As for sending her your blood tests & sending her to the clinic, that's just downright weird.
She's a grown mature woman, regardless of her nationality or culture, we're all humans with the same emotions.
I wouldn't have batted an eyelid, if I was you & had been told this story. It's just a small part of her distant life.

I really feel, if you carry on like this, you will drive her away from you...& you haven't even met yet.

Stop these thoughts, & this controlling behaviour...she sounds like a nice woman.