Long Way to Go For a Date - a Discussion

[Northerner]

Hey Northerener I wasn't having a go at you...seriously
& I know you think I'm Mr. cautious.
This thread, is a result of the unfortunate situation Socool has found himself in.

We're all crazy, because we've all got on that plane.....I've always said to myself, this is crazy...still say it now sometimes, but I'm still here.
There are no guarantees in life, so yes you do have to grab them when they come along, but you still do have to becareful....Just make sure you grab the right one.
I sincerely hope, you'll be on this forum for many years to come, handing out your own advice.

Oh, I know you didn't mean to single me out. And yes I do see you as kind of the cautious one on here - which is a good thing I am sure I will be picking your brains for a long time to come..

And I do plan to be a part of this forum for a long time to come. To me, I see this as more than a simple advice forum. But a gateway to the UK Filipino community which I am about to join. And I do plan on dispensing my advice to the newbies in years to come. But I also asked Rizza to join as I think it would be good for her to get to know other Pinays who have made that journey and can support her through simple advice and chit chat.

I like this thread. Some people see trying to find a girlfriend in the Philippines as the same process as picking out a new car. I despise those people, as they're the same people who would send a girl back to the Philippines for farting in bed. They see the girl as more of a possession as opposed to an equal, and those people are disgraceful humans, who just make it more difficult for people like me and Denise to get visas. I apologise if this post puts some peoples noses out of joint, but I'm a frank person, and if this post rings true to you, I more than likely wouldn't give you the time of day anyway.

Matt, I hear you and couldn't agree more. But if your "farting in bed" reference was to another recent thread, I cannot comment, only to say I think the gentleman involved feels unloved and used in his circumstances. And so, without another side to his story, we should all take him at his word, as he does seem a reasonable guy. And getting back to my own relationship. I have no intention of being the dominant one out of a couple. I also do not want a submissive woman who does as I say and do, plus I think to is fair to say Rizza would likely be as assertive if not more so in our relationship, which is how I would like things to be.

I also expect many ups and downs, I expect to get a little grumpy at times, I expect Rizza to have her down days too. Especially in the early days! And she is far from a woman I chose like at a supermarket. When we first got talking, I was also talking to other girls and she too was talking to other guys. But the funy thing is this; I am the product of a long distant pen pal relationship! My parents both came from Ireland, my father worked in Manchester whilst my mother lived on the west coast of Ireland. They were pen pals and eventually married... History is repeating itself perhaps?

Fools rush in where angels fear to tread,I hope that was the royal "We" when you said "We're all crazy" because it didnt encompass me I was there long before this internet dating stampede,and for totally different reasons,besides,I have known my lady for five years,we arent even at the engagement stage,we are both cool with that,and she is a little different from the average lady

I had a sort of connection to the phils back in my JKD/Kali days. And I think it is fair to say I am often intrigued by Asian culture. I guess I opted for the Philippines in al honesty as it was a place I always wanted to visit but also for the fact that I find Asian/Latin women very attractive. But life has a funny way of turning out! A few years ago the woman I thought was perfect for me was a welsh woman who I really did not like, once I peeked below the surface.. We shall see

I will tell you what genuinely puzzles me,what makes guys with no connection whatsoever with a country,99.99% havent even been there get online and search for dating agencies specialising in a particular ethnicity be it Thai,Pinay,Indo or whatever Now thats a genuine conundrum If I was single and had always lived in the UK what would drag me away from the TV one evening and search for a woman on the other side of the planet with whom I had nothing in common whatsoever Answers on a postcard please to the usual address

When I first started out on one of these dating sites, it was really for a bit of a laugh. I did not expect much and was really just bored at first and looking to strike up a conversation. Well, things went pretty quickly. Now when I met Rizza, I had already decided to go to Asia again on a holiday. My plan was to meet a few girls, go on a few dates and if nothing else happened I would enjoy a few meals and some good company. A good holiday idea, but then I quickly lost interest in other woman on the internet and slowly removed them from my yahoo. Then I realized things were getting serious between us and I finally decided to go to Cebu and see how things worked out. Since then, our time on the internet and over the phone has exploded. We text many times a day. I call her a couple of times a week and we meet online on my days off work. And I decided to ask her engagement in a way that reminded me of my parents. Not exactly romantic, but necessary at the time. Time and distance are against us, so the usual rules do not apply!

[Matt7]

Matt, I hear you and couldn't agree more. But if your "farting in bed" reference was to another recent thread, I cannot comment, only to say I think the gentleman involved feels unloved and used in his circumstances. And so, without another side to his story, we should all take him at his word, as he does seem a reasonable guy. And getting back to my own relationship. I have no intention of being the dominant one out of a couple. I also do not want a submissive woman who does as I say and do, plus I think to is fair to say Rizza would likely be as assertive if not more so in our relationship, which is how I would like things to be.

I guess a few threads influenced my post, and I'm not gonna hide it, certain people on here irritate me beyond belief. I don't see myself "above" certain people, but me and Denise went about this all the right way, and I'm in no mood to be screwed over a visa because some guy with too much money and not enough patience decides the next toy he wants is a Filipina

[Northerner]

I guess a few threads influenced my post, and I'm not gonna hide it, certain people on here irritate me beyond belief. I don't see myself "above" certain people, but me and Denise went about this all the right way, and I'm in no mood to be screwed over a visa because some guy with too much money and not enough patience decides the next toy he wants is a Filipina

I don't think you will get screwed over a visa! Each case is judged on it's own merits and I am sure yours will prove that Good luck with those visas, anyway...

[Dedworth]

I guess a few threads influenced my post, and I'm not gonna hide it, certain people on here irritate me beyond belief. I don't see myself "above" certain people, but me and Denise went about this all the right way, and I'm in no mood to be screwed over a visa because some guy with too much money and not enough patience decides the next toy he wants is a Filipina

You've lost me here pal - why would other peoples attitudes have a negative effect on a visa application involving yourself ? Its a bit like saying that maniacs driving past the test centre might make the driving test examiner fail you.