What happens if you say NO?

[GaryFifer]

That makes sense if your lady is going to join you here, to share with her some of the cultural differences but my friends are unlikely to visit here and I am unlikely to visit there, so my concern for now is to make sure that they have one or two of life's little comforts to help them along.

ok. I say send them a kettle and some gas. They can boil their water so its able to drink.

[Sis Suze]

ok. I say send them a kettle and some gas. They can boil their water so its able to drink.

If I could send gas I would, kettle is in hand, as is the coffee maker, printer, saucepans, clothing and a number of other things.

[GaryFifer]

If I could send gas I would, kettle is in hand, as is the coffee maker, printer, saucepans, clothing and a number of other things.

hmm ok send beans. they can generate their own gas

[RickyR]

Marry a Filipina, marry the family.... Not fair to change a culture???

But i'm a tight yorkshireman and don't know what fair is!

[Sis Suze]

Marry a Filipina, marry the family.... Not fair to change a culture???

But i'm a tight yorkshireman and don't know what fair is!

Well I'm not marrying anyone so I'm OK...lol x

[aposhark]

I have frequently said no and this sort of thing does tend to cause a lot of conflict and tampos in a relationship. You will probably find that unless you agree some guidelines with your wife (this is better done before she comes to the UK, or better still before you get married) and draw a line in the sand so to speak, the requests will start to come thick and fast and the amounts asked for will tend to increase as well.

Iain.

Well said Iain,

I had to draw a line in the sand last week too.
I just wish the families of our wives/fiancees could see the bills we have to pay here in the UK.
The exchange rate (at times) makes us look a bit like wealthy people to families over there, and granted perhaps we are in comparison, but we are all trying to keep our heads above water in the UK.
Maybe this is a bad comparison with the floods in Manila at the moment