Home sickness

[Sophie]

Hello all,
Some will remember that my wife Jennifer arrived in the UK last Tuesday the 29th September.
She is very homesick, she has a close family at home in Cagayan De Oro City, and is thinking of going home.
Jennifer does have a computer at our home on the Isle of Wight, and we did buy a laptop to leave at the family home, but this is not yet online.
She has been in contact with her family via Skype and yahoo messenger with her sister going to an internet café.
She has made friends with the Filipina widow of the British man who died a few weeks ago, but she will be returning to Cebue as soon as her pension paperwork is completed.

I am retired so am not going to work and leaving her own her own.
We had been apart for 16 months since our wedding on 8th April 2008 until this week.
I realise it may take time for us to get close again.
How can I best help her?
Mick.

Hi mick, i think the best thing you can do is be more understanding and have more patience.....which i know you are already doing,
as she will have some moments of depression from time to time or may get in some moods at times........
But you don't need to do so much really, its enough that she feels you empathize with her
and she knows you understand exactly what she feels and what she's going through.....
Its a normal phase every filipinas go through i suppose, it's a major transition,
adjusting from single to married life and in particular adjusting from life back home to new life here.....2 major changes at once.....
And people have different ways of coping and adjusting to change, some can do it quite faster and easier while some struggle a bit harder.....
What's important is to be supportive to her all the way until she gets adjusted well being here and being apart from her family back home......
And maybe you can let her join the forum, she will enjoy it here specially with many filipinas around to talk to and have fun with....

[maria_and_matt]

hmmm, what about a baby? i remember i was feeling the exact same way when i first got here. but when i got pregnant i got so busy with my lil one i forgot where i was

[Florge]

Ay the filipino answer to everything ,, A baby...This is what has got the philippines in a huge mess... A baby does not solve homesickness problems, in fact when you have one, you need your family around you even more.. I cant believe that you said this ....

[Queenbee]

Hi mick, i think the best thing you can do is be more understanding and have more patience.....which i know you are already doing,
as she will have some moments of depression from time to time or may get in some moods at times........
But you don't need to do so much really, its enough that she feels you empathize with her
and she knows you understand exactly what she feels and what she's going through.....
Its a normal phase every filipinas go through i suppose, it's a major transition,
adjusting from single to married life and in particular adjusting from life back home to new life here.....2 major changes at once.....
And people have different ways of coping and adjusting to change, some can do it quite faster and easier while some struggle a bit harder.....
What's important is to be supportive to her all the way until she gets adjusted well being here and being apart from her family back home......
And maybe you can let her join the forum, she will enjoy it here specially with many filipinas around to talk to and have fun with....

real true ms sophie!