for PINAY wives!

[pocahontas]

ok i have been reading all the happy endings in this forum. met online fell in love got married, applied for a visa, visa granted, flying to the UK, eventually having kids.
being married of course is so exciting at first. but as time past, when the spark is gone, do you feel resentment of having to give up life in the philippines for our lives here? are you just as in love with your husband as the day you married him? do you have any regrets?
sometimes i do.. i look at my husband and think, dear what a miserable git he is. if i had a choice i would go back home and stay there! but unfortunately i have a son whose life is here, and there is no way i would leave him.
i cannot deny that i find life here so boring, my neighbours i do not know unlike back home where i can go house to house and eat their food. here you just cannot turn up at peoples houses unannounced.
huge culture difference as well, we are raised to help our elderly. here it nursing homes. we have a huge family that supports as back home, here it is just the hubby, and the kids.
hayzzz sorry for going on and on i guess i am just missing home so much especially now xmas is here.
i hope all you pinays have a good xmas and not missing home too much.

i know exactly what you mean.......HI..btw. im now in that situation..been here for 8months and it really breaks my heart the fact that the culture is so different and till now trying to get to used it. MERRY CHRISTMAS.. YOU CAN EAT MY FOOD HERE ANYTIMES just feel that im your good filipina neighbour here..

[maria_and_matt]

i know exactly what you mean.......HI..btw. im now in that situation..been here for 8months and it really breaks my heart the fact that the culture is so different and till now trying to get to used it. MERRY CHRISTMAS.. YOU CAN EAT MY FOOD HERE ANYTIMES just feel that im your good filipina neighbour here..

hahaha, you can also eat my food here at home pocahontas anytime, so darn lonely, i am looking at our neighbourhood all is indoors can blame them i think it is about to snow!

[Tonet]

I can understand how you feel, after i been on holiday back home and being reminded how is it to be home, i find it very very hard to be back here. I felt really lonely, bored and sad.

Its very quiet, nobody is outside and i dont even know our neighbour. I also find it hard that i cant just see my filipino friends, they are working so we need to schedule when can we see each other.
The season as well is not helping as its dark most time of the days, i miss the spirit of x'mas back in Philippines. (yun bang halos malanghap mo na ang amoy ng pasko pagsapit ng desyembre. and x'mas carolings)

With your question about being a wife, i have only been a Mrs. for more than 2 years but yeah i am still inlove with husband. I actually love him more now, because i know more about him. He is the reason why i cant just go back to Philippines because this is my home now, here with him. i know i i'm not going to be happy without him even i'm in Philippines.

[Tawi2]

Regrets?Never regret something you did,only regret things you didnt do,things you have already done are water under the bridge,they are past you cant change them so dont waste time mulling over them,but we have all been miserable gits at one time or another,its the Victor Meldrew stage in life

[Tish]

Regrets?Never regret something you did,only regret things you didnt do,things you have already done are water under the bridge,they are past you cant change them so dont waste time mulling over them,but we have all been miserable gits at one time or another,its the Victor Meldrew stage in life

Live life without regrets, that's my motto

BTW Tawi, I love watching 'one foot in the grave'

And I like him saying 'I don't believe it!'

Tish

[Tawi2]

The ordinary things in life Tish never regret them,but we develop a conscience when we get older and reflect,at least some of us do,I have never had a confessional but some things nibble away at our conscience,we cant alter them,whats done is done,just concentrate on the future,yesterdays history,tommorrows a mystery,live for today,I like one foot in the grave because I have had a foot in that dark hole once or twice,funny old life innit

[JimOttley]

Regrets?Never regret something you did,only regret things you didnt do,things you have already done are water under the bridge,they are past you cant change them so dont waste time mulling over them,but we have all been miserable gits at one time or another,its the Victor Meldrew stage in life

Wise words Tawi!

Jim