What are you like with text/sms messages?

[somebody]

So, hopefully, things will ultimately work out well for YOU and Suzie (without the long waiting period I had to endure, of course!). But first, I think you need to "test the waters" by indicating your clear intentions of visiting her and guaging her reactions to this proposal in order to try and ascertain her REAL feelings towards you.

Spot on as normally is Mr Little.

As many have experienced on here there maybe a reason why she has "dissapeared for a short while" it happened to sim and several others on here. Many Phill ladies im sure cant see hoe it could work especially if the Brit man does not visit.

Propose to visit when you do speak and see what occurs as Mr Little says

[South-east boy]

Spot on as normally is Mr Little.

As many have experienced on here there maybe a reason why she has "dissapeared for a short while" it happened to sim and several others on here. Many Phill ladies im sure cant see hoe it could work especially if the Brit man does not visit.

Propose to visit when you do speak and see what occurs as Mr Little says

I did say in my original ad that I was really looking for someone in UK and it was she who contacted me. If she can't think how it could work, then she could ask and press me. I did say after I sent the parcel, that I was annoyed that with the extra courier costs, customs & VAT as with what I spent I could have flown to see her for cheaper. I wish I could say when and book a flight etc, but I can't. As I've mentioned before in other threads, this last year has been very hard as I've had the highest bills and least amount of money coming in - I'm stuck on a high interest rate mortgage which is 50% more than the last, and my wages are a few hundred a month down due to no increase, no overtime a 1/4 of my bonuses from previous years and rising gas, electricity and petrol etc costs. I also had a £1040 car bill + other ones throughout the year!

[Sim11UK]

I'd hang in there, a bit longer if I was you....Wait until the new year has calmed down. I think you said she had a job? So presumably, she will have to come back for that, if she has gone away? Have you tried phoning again?

[Sim11UK]

...But you really have to consider whether you can afford it?
Because if you want to persue this & get married, it's going to be at least 2 trips out there?...& that is just for starters.

I've always wondered where the money was coming from, but somehow I've always managed it.

[Doc Alan]

[QUOTE=Sim11UK;198908]...But you really have to consider whether you can afford it?
Because if you want to persue this & get married, it's going to be at least 2 trips out there?...& that is just for starters.

That's a sobering thought for the New Year !
I've followed this thread from the start, and it's obviously not finished. However, it may become clear next week when the New Year is truly under way. Keep yourself occupied here until then, if at all possible, by seeing friends / relatives, even if you can't discuss these matters with them, you will doubtless find they have got their own problems which puts things in perspective.
I had similar problems (communication, trust, money) with a British girl - so it's definitely not just Thais or Filipinas - and no Forum to offer me advice.
You've been honest with your thoughts and finances, and there's advice elsewhere on the Forum about the cost of such distance relationships. Of course, I understand "cost" to be more than finance but the actual effort or loss necessary to achieve something.

[somebody]

...But you really have to consider whether you can afford it?
Because if you want to persue this & get married, it's going to be at least 2 trips out there?...& that is just for starters.

I've always wondered where the money was coming from, but somehow I've always managed it.

Very true and the possibilty if the wife comes over she may not earn a great deal unless very lucky or highly skilled. My Wife started in a low paid job and still not earning a great deal although still 6 times more than even her fellow uni and school friends in blue chip jobs in Manila.