how to manage the bad temper of your partner???

[somebody]

Hi Bher you will find a lot of Western people are far far less mature with their social skills compared to many Phills. Your Mahal has to confront the reasons why he has this bad mood. If you are to be together in the UK and your alone in the UK you need a husband who can be patient with you during what maybe hard times on occasions.

A lot of the stress maybe due to being apart which is very hard, but if its an ongoing thing then he should really look into the roots causes and how he can learn to try and handle his temper.

[RickyR]

Hi Bher you will find a lot of Western people are far far less mature with their social skills compared to many Phills.

What a stupid comment!!!! It's nothing to do with making a ridiculous stereotype of westeners maturity.

I'd suggest it could be one of two things; firstly it could be a cultural thing, Western people tend to be more vocal about how they feel about something, we don't have the same 'loss of face' that you may be accustomed to. If it's this situation, it really is just a slight raising of the voice and expressing a bit of annoyance at something. For westerners we find this very easy, because if someone is vocal at least we understand that there is a problem, and then on the same note it is unacceptable to sulk and keep a grudge. It's a case of saying what you want to say, and that being the end of it. When this is the situation, it does take a little bit of adjustment with both parties. Westerners living in the Philippines, tend to resign themselves to accepting when something is wrong, because it can be difficult in the culture here to express your annoyance and dissapointment without offending (thats a cultural adjustment).
So, what i'm saying if this is the case, talk about it and try to understand it from both peoples side.

Now if its something more aggressive, where the person actually has an anger management problem, and it concerns your safety and wellbeing or you feel it's an unacceptable environment for your children then i'd highly recommend professional advice.
There is support for you in this situation; http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/anger-m...roduction.aspx . Seriously, if your situation is this one, and not the first that I said, then deal with it straight away, because it will only progress and get worse.

[KeithD]

What a stupid comment!!!! It's nothing to do with making a ridiculous stereotype of westeners maturity.

He did say 'a lot' which would mean thses days folk under the age of 25 whose only real world talking skills are via the web. If you spend sometime with this age group you'd soon realise they can't grasp certain parts of conversations, plus they have a shorted attention span than those above 25. Seen it all with my own eyes over the years, and research backs it up.

[bher]

What a stupid comment!!!! It's nothing to do with making a ridiculous stereotype of westeners maturity.

I'd suggest it could be one of two things; firstly it could be a cultural thing, Western people tend to be more vocal about how they feel about something, we don't have the same 'loss of face' that you may be accustomed to. If it's this situation, it really is just a slight raising of the voice and expressing a bit of annoyance at something. For westerners we find this very easy, because if someone is vocal at least we understand that there is a problem, and then on the same note it is unacceptable to sulk and keep a grudge. It's a case of saying what you want to say, and that being the end of it. When this is the situation, it does take a little bit of adjustment with both parties. Westerners living in the Philippines, tend to resign themselves to accepting when something is wrong, because it can be difficult in the culture here to express your annoyance and dissapointment without offending (thats a cultural adjustment).
So, what i'm saying if this is the case, talk about it and try to understand it from both peoples side.

Now if its something more aggressive, where the person actually has an anger management problem, and it concerns your safety and wellbeing or you feel it's an unacceptable environment for your children then i'd highly recommend professional advice.
There is support for you in this situation; http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/anger-m...roduction.aspx . Seriously, if your situation is this one, and not the first that I said, then deal with it straight away, because it will only progress and get worse.

yes ricky i agree with you.. husband also told me that westerners are more vocal and frank with other people.. they will say everything they want esp wen they are mad/upset.. most asian are not really used to it and i find it a bit difficult atfirst esp for me.. most of the arguements we r having are more on cultural difference and thats normal with us and with other couple who are different nationalities,a bit hard work and difficult to absorb in a while but ofcourse we need to know wat point of views the couple have regarding that differences... thank's ricky...

[junior02]

Hi Bher you will find a lot of Western people are far far less mature with their social skills compared to many Phills. Your Mahal has to confront the reasons why he has this bad mood. If you are to be together in the UK and your alone in the UK you need a husband who can be patient with you during what maybe hard times on occasions.

A lot of the stress maybe due to being apart which is very hard, but if its an ongoing thing then he should really look into the roots causes and how he can learn to try and handle his temper.

i personly think its the other way round from my own experiances regarding the first line of your post, a lot of filipinas are more hot headed and agressive than english women, and are drama queens with crocodile tears, same as some spanish and italian women..

[kalabasa]

i personly think its the other way round from my own experiances regarding the first line of your post, a lot of filipinas are more hot headed and agressive than english women, and are drama queens with crocodile tears, same as some spanish and italian women..

it is because english woman use to be so very independent at there very young age but regardless of that filifinas women are more tougher and value life itlsef and marriage than european classy mind numbing crap women

[junior02]

it is because english woman use to be so very independent at there very young age but regardless of that filifinas women are more tougher and value life itlsef and marriage than european classy mind numbing crap women

thats not a very nice thing to say about european women, sounds like you have got a very big chip on your shoulder..

[kalabasa]

thats not a very nice thing to say about european women, sounds like you have got a very big chip on your shoulder..

oh not at all..women all over the globe or anywhere could be like that but you pinpoiting about lots of filipina women are agrresive and hot headede same as europen in such a manner could be the same

[bher]

oh not at all..women all over the globe or anywhere could be like that but you pinpoiting about lots of filipina women are agrresive and hot headede same as europen in such a manner could be the same

we know that women all over the world are different esp wen it comes to culture and how each person grew with different countries... they say women are all emotional with their feeling wat ever nationalities/culture they have its nature to be like that.. being hard headed, hot temper and aggressive well i guess that depends to the person... weather european or filipina.....