Quote Originally Posted by LuisaKC View Post
BUT just assuming this is YOU and YOUR life. WHAT IS YOUR LIMIT TO LOVING ONE PERSON? WHEN WILL YOU STOP STRIVING HARD TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK?
I've been thinking about this for some time and now ready to commit my thinking into words.

If you put a lot into the relationship, but your partner seems to put nothing or very little into it, that’s a sign that your partner isn’t committed to either you or the relationship.

If you’re getting nothing out of the relationship, there really is no reason to stay around.

If it’s more of a relief to be apart than be together, that’s a very bad sign.
The reason you’re in the relationship is because you enjoy the time spent in the company of each other. If it’s a bind to be around each other anymore, then there really is no reason to stay.

If you're not being respected, then the relationship has to change.
Mutual respect is the foundation of any relationship. You probably need to end the relationship, because something as basic as that is unlikely to change.

If your partner is abusive to you, that is the ultimate sign of disrespect.

If you’re being lied to or cheated on, then you aren’t being respected. You can try to repair the relationship by talking things over with a liar or cheat, but don’t fool youself. The relationship is over.

If being in the relationship is putting stress on you or it seems like it’s unhealthy, then please try to visualise the future. Ask yourself where the relationship is going. Does your partner wear you out?
If your partner gets emotional over the simplest things or constantly critises your every move, that’s not healthy. That is called a high maintenance relationship. Some people can thrive in these situations. For most of us, we’ve got to get out of the relationship and find a healthier one.

If everything you do is a mistake or a negative on the relationship, this is no good for you. Your partner needs to let you feel appreciated. The overcritical partner not only brings the romance down, but they begin to undermine your self-esteem. If they think you are insecure, then in their mind they believe you are more likely to stay in the relationship come waht may.
Don’t fall into this trap. If your partner doesn’t appreciate you, you can find someone who will.

If you really do strive so hard to stay in a formerly romantic relationship that includes the above "IF'S" then you're likely in denial.
Most of us have been there in some shape or form. BEFORE

Sorry for the long post, and no offence meant. Just my opinion