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I hear you guys loud and clear. I haven't spent much money her honestly. She hasn't asked for much. I gave her a few things I intended during my vacation to the Philippines, but I guess if she's know's I give it she doesn't have to ask huh. Call me a glutton for punishment, but I'll give it some time. If things don't work out, I know that I would definitely do things differently the next time around.
You could start by not even looking in the Philippines next time! Seriously, there are Pinays all over the world - and just as nice as those in the Philippines itself but without all of the hassle or risks of being scammed.Originally Posted by corjoh
Hong Kong is a prime example. 250,000 Pinays who have already adjusted to living in a foreign country (or SAR!). So if the plan is to come back to the UK, then you can confident about her settling. They often have to deal with some harsh Chinese families and work long hours and for very low pay (just one day off on Sunday when they wonderfully take over Hong Kong Central and camp out everywhere playing cards, games and dancing. A real sight to behold!).
There are virtually no eligible men in sight either. About 99% of domestic helpers in Hong Kong are female and maybe 1% male. The same breakdown for the Indonesians (also around 250,000 strong). The Chinese guys generally aren't interested and a lot are just downright racist towards South East Asians.
I mean, seriously, I live here and have a lot of time for the place but the whole online dating thing from aboard would be far too much of a minefield for me!
For someone new to it, it would be. Best to experience online dating from your own backyard before looking at a LDR if you're gonna take that route. That way you can get use to all the bullshit and learn from it.
Well I've never done the online dating thing in the UK. Only Hong Kong. But at the end of the day, UK online dating is unlikely to see you sending loads of money to the ladies in question and you don't have fly halfway around the world to meet them. It just seems fraught with necessary risks to me. Fair play to those it has worked out for but it is certainly not for me.For someone new to it, it would be. Best to experience online dating from your own backyard before looking at a LDR if you're gonna take that route. That way you can get use to all the bullshit and learn from it.
Sending money is an option not a rule and I imagine most men refrain from doing so until they know their other half properly. A friend of mine never sent his mahal any money at all and even told her family from the offset that he wasn't prepared to help them financially. Twenty years on, he's still with her happily married.
As for dating online in the UK, I was referring to experiencing it over here first and getting to know how the online players & the fakes operate before embarking on dating overseas via the web.
Yeah but that is the sensible ones! My point was more about the guys who are daft enough to send money and end up being scammed. You are unlikely to get into that position if you're in the UK. If you're doing online dating in the UK and some lady asks for money early in the relationship, alarm bells would/should start to ring but all this seems to go out the window with some guys conversing with girls in the Philippines!
Yeah, that is a fair point but there are still so many hassles in comparison.As for dating online in the UK, I was referring to experiencing it over here first and getting to know how the online players & the fakes operate before embarking on dating overseas via the web.
The main point remains: why put yourself through it all when there are Pinays everywhere? Places where there is no interfering family, where they are in employment and have already shown the ability to adjust to a foreign culture, that are easier and safer to visit, where it will be easier to obtain a spouse/fiance visa, where the scammers are bound to fewer and further between etc etc?
It may seem counter-intuitive but if you're just starting out and interested in having a LDR relationship with a Pinay, the Philippines is probably just about the worst place you can look!
You cant compare dating uk and phil women. Most of us guys on here wanted to be with a phil lady. No disrespect but, have you been on the streets of a weekend and seen how these uk 'ladies' act? As Dedworth would say 'dross' so please dont compare. Paul I read your post again. You said it stupid to date from the Phil. I beg to differ. You think its a good idea to date a phil already in uk. Umm not! She prob got here on the back of her English husband who she abandoned after getting her full visa, Great!
TBF, I think British women are more subtle, calculating and less direct and are prepared to wait until they've got you firmly in their claws before playing the money card. I do agree though that some guys can let their guard down somewhat when it comes to Filipina women.
Valid point although I reckon most guys automatically think of the Philippines when it comes to Pinays which is logical
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