long distance relationship problem! need advice

[ghee101]

i am a living proof of how hard long distance relationship is. i can cope, he cant. in the end, i get frustrated too. we fight almost everyday. he never really trust me so every move i make, he would give it another meaning. add some people who created stories about me even before we met in person.

no matter how we resolve problems, it always comes back and haunt us. now he gets jealous of everything. im not allowed to mingle with youngsters coz i would look like im trying to be young, im not allowed to be touchy anymore when ive been that to all my friends, im not allowed to be close to guys, not even allowed to put on make up like i would be flirting left and right oh well...

when we get together, he can keep his eyes on me. that's when i can relax and be myself...hopefully.

[edyc08]

time and distance can create problems
when was the last time you saw her ?

yeah your right you'll never know what time and distance can do to a relationships...
a happy ending or sad ending
last time i saw her was 8 months ago, when she's leaving the philippines, she's going to bisha in middle east to work.

if you are ment to be together then you will be, its hard for both parties, and there are so many other people offering this and that, being lonely is the hardest thing to accept, trusting each other is the most important,but if the is wanting a break from each other i would walk away , good luck

i trust her all the time, but somethings wrong and it's bothering me.
its hard for me to break up, but its unfair for me she doesn't want to break up with me.
I said to her "i'm not breaking up because i dont love you, i will break up to you so you can think clearly and realize my worth in your life." im still waiting for her decision. I bring down my pride for this relationship and it doesn't matter to what other is saying to me , i lover her so much.

She seems to be looking at her options between the two of you,
Being so far apart can really get to you, if you give her the 3 months
What then.

Please do not ignore your own gut feelings.
Mick.

I gave her ther 3 months, so she can decide, i consider her situation.
Like me, I'm alone in this country no close friend, don't have work yet , no everything.

Thanks Mick, I didn't ignore my feelings, it's just i lover her so much. I know she have lot of problem there, like uncompensated, she work 7 days a week, she doesn't have any close friend there because all of her co nurse is not that friendly. She wants to go back to the Philippines but her boss or manager would not allow her, because she had a two year contract.

You already had that 3rd party issue before breaking up with her while you still had a constant communication, how much more without any connection at all??...creating intimacy involves consistent attention for one another and the relationship itself... and having a regular, healthy communication is always an important factor in establishing openness and making things work out despite the distance...good luck

I thinks its not a third party yet.
Yeah we have a constant communication before, i don't know what happen,
I guess she didn't want me worry about her, because like her she's alone in a foreign country.
That's why she didn't tell me everything that is going on around her.
I know that She loves me, and i lover her very much
Im still praying that all this problem would be fixed in time.

i am a living proof of how hard long distance relationship is. i can cope, he cant. in the end, i get frustrated too. we fight almost everyday. he never really trust me so every move i make, he would give it another meaning. add some people who created stories about me even before we met in person.

no matter how we resolve problems, it always comes back and haunt us. now he gets jealous of everything. im not allowed to mingle with youngsters coz i would look like im trying to be young, im not allowed to be touchy anymore when ive been that to all my friends, im not allowed to be close to guys, not even allowed to put on make up like i would be flirting left and right oh well...

when we get together, he can keep his eyes on me. that's when i can relax and be myself...hopefully.

I trust her with all i have, but still something get wrong.
we've been in your situation, but after realizing I'm to strict to her about that things, i let her do what she wants.
But our problem start right after that. I don't know where to place my self.

[Arthur Little]

I don't know where to place my self.

Concentrate on your studies, Edy and try - hard as it may seem - not to allow this girl's fickle behaviour play havoc with your emotions and interfere with your main objective, i.e., your eventual career prospects either here in the UK or elsewhere. You're evidently still a young man with a whole exciting future ahead of you ... don't jeopardise it for the sake of someone who clearly doesn't know what she wants!

[malditako]

Concentrate on your studies, Edy and try - hard as it may seem - not to allow this girl's fickle behaviour play havoc with your emotions and interfere with your main objective, i.e., your eventual career prospects either here in the UK or elsewhere. You're evidently still a young man with a whole exciting future ahead of you ... don't jeopardise it for the sake of someone who clearly doesn't know what she wants!

so true

[Steve.r]

i am a living proof of how hard long distance relationship is. i can cope, he cant. in the end, i get frustrated too. we fight almost everyday. he never really trust me so every move i make, he would give it another meaning. add some people who created stories about me even before we met in person.

no matter how we resolve problems, it always comes back and haunt us. now he gets jealous of everything. im not allowed to mingle with youngsters coz i would look like im trying to be young, im not allowed to be touchy anymore when ive been that to all my friends, im not allowed to be close to guys, not even allowed to put on make up like i would be flirting left and right oh well...

and be myself...hopefully.

Ghee ...... come on... honestly, You are backing yourself into a huge hole. I don't want to sound blunt, but you should dump this guy, he's . There are plenty of men out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve.

[malditako]

i am a living proof of how hard long distance relationship is. i can cope, he cant. in the end, i get frustrated too. we fight almost everyday. he never really trust me so every move i make, he would give it another meaning. add some people who created stories about me even before we met in person.

no matter how we resolve problems, it always comes back and haunt us. now he gets jealous of everything. im not allowed to mingle with youngsters coz i would look like im trying to be young, im not allowed to be touchy anymore when ive been that to all my friends, im not allowed to be close to guys, not even allowed to put on make up like i would be flirting left and right oh well...

when we get together, he can keep his eyes on me. that's when i can relax and be myself...hopefully.

oh dear..wonder how you manage that ghee...next time he would tell you..dont go out from that door lol... sounds no good to me

[Terpe]

i am a living proof of how hard long distance relationship is. i can cope, he cant. in the end, i get frustrated too. we fight almost everyday. he never really trust me so every move i make, he would give it another meaning. add some people who created stories about me even before we met in person.

no matter how we resolve problems, it always comes back and haunt us. now he gets jealous of everything. im not allowed to mingle with youngsters coz i would look like im trying to be young, im not allowed to be touchy anymore when ive been that to all my friends, im not allowed to be close to guys, not even allowed to put on make up like i would be flirting left and right oh well...

when we get together, he can keep his eyes on me. that's when i can relax and be myself...hopefully.

ghee101, I don't know anything about your story I'm afraid. But from your post I would have to agee with gparry.

I fear that you have already shown many weakness for your b/f to exploit.

The future together may not be as relaxed as you feel.

Please ghee, try to think more on this relationship. It does not seem healthy.

[joebloggs]

i am a living proof of how hard long distance relationship is. i can cope, he cant. in the end, i get frustrated too. we fight almost everyday. he never really trust me so every move i make, he would give it another meaning. add some people who created stories about me even before we met in person.

no matter how we resolve problems, it always comes back and haunt us. now he gets jealous of everything. im not allowed to mingle with youngsters coz i would look like im trying to be young, im not allowed to be touchy anymore when ive been that to all my friends, im not allowed to be close to guys, not even allowed to put on make up like i would be flirting left and right oh well...

when we get together, he can keep his eyes on me. that's when i can relax and be myself...hopefully.

what's it goinmg to be like once your married and after you've been married for a number of years

[grahamw48]

i am a living proof of how hard long distance relationship is. i can cope, he cant. in the end, i get frustrated too. we fight almost everyday. he never really trust me so every move i make, he would give it another meaning. add some people who created stories about me even before we met in person.

no matter how we resolve problems, it always comes back and haunt us. now he gets jealous of everything. im not allowed to mingle with youngsters coz i would look like im trying to be young, im not allowed to be touchy anymore when ive been that to all my friends, im not allowed to be close to guys, not even allowed to put on make up like i would be flirting left and right oh well...

when we get together, he can keep his eyes on me. that's when i can relax and be myself...hopefully.

And you are still in this relationship ???

If so, I am shocked !

(Sorry...hope you're not offended by that)

[Steve.r]

'There are none so blind as those who do not want to see'

[mickcant]

'There are none so blind as those who do not want to see'

Steve, I agree with that becouse as we know I was also one of them
We come out of it but at a high cost
Mick.

[Steve.r]

Steve, I agree with that becouse as we know I was also one of them
We come out of it but at a high cost
Mick.

Mick, I never even thought about your situation. You did learn the hard way, and with a huge cost to your pocket and emotonally. Ghee, on the other hand has the time to get out now, before she makes that mistake ..... but she wont listen to our warnings, and we cannot make her see reason. I, for one am quite sad about that.

[mickcant]

Mick, I never even thought about your situation. You did learn the hard way, and with a huge cost to your pocket and emotonally. Ghee, on the other hand has the time to get out now, before she makes that mistake ..... but she wont listen to our warnings, and we cannot make her see reason. I, for one am quite sad about that.

I too was given warnings, but thought Jennifer returned my love and that all would be ok when we were together, WRONG it was then edivedent even to me that she did not want to be with me, she only ever wanted the money and visa

She told many lies and did trip herself up in the end, you need a good memory to keep telling lies.
Mick.

[gWaPito]

Like I said, the guy must be sending shed loads of cash back to her. I cant for the life of me, see any other reason to 'stay' with him. Thats how people like that keep control. Many here Ghee are giving sound advise, its only you who can act on it. If you need strength, think of your Daughter's safety and well being, think what your father would be thinking about this nonsense. I too have been where you are at now. You got to dig deep Ghee. You will do the right thing.

[Arthur Little]

im not allowed to mingle with youngsters coz i would look like im trying to be young,

Angelica ... YOU are [still] young ...

[Arthur Little]

it always comes back and haunt us. now he gets jealous of everything. im not allowed to be touchy anymore when ive been that to all my friends, im not allowed to be close to guys, not even allowed to put on make up like i would be flirting left and right oh well...

when we get together, he can keep his eyes on me. that's when i can relax and be myself...

... that's the whole problem ... and it's all so, sooo wrong! Don't you see? Believe me ... you can happily do without this guy in your life, Angelica!