Marrying and living in the Phils

[joebloggs]

Oh sorry about your dad Was he murderd too?
I have been told by people that losing someone to murder is not grief alone its Sudden and Traumatic Deaths - Trauma I at this moment i only see a bullet in my Dads face and not my dads nice face everytime i close my eyes

as sars has said all deaths can be traumatic, wether mudered or not, your imagining what happened to your father and if you had seen the death of your father it would have been more traumatic for you, my stepdad died like SArs father of a heart attack, and i had to try and resuscitate him , something i'll never forget, those minutes til the ambulance came seemed like a life time but i knew he was dead ..

time is a great healer and i wish you well

[northampton_gir]

your imagining what happened to your father and if you had seen the death of your father it would have been more traumatic for you,
I have seen the pictures of my dads Body on his living room floor blood everywhere Because these pictures was publicy put all over the net so yes i have seen my dad lying dead
And i do understand if i had watched dad have a heart attack i would feel just as bad watching so that must have been so bad for you sorry about your dad

[Steve.r]

It was truely tragic what happened. We see it happen in movies every night on tv but we know it is not real. Seeing your precious loved one, who ever it may be struggling for life, or already passed away is a horror we can never mentally forget. I myself have seen people killed in real life, I have been witness to terrorist bombings, air crashes and road accidents, the sight never leaves you.

Jess, you say that the images of your Dad when you think of him now are of how he was left lying on the floor, I cannot imagine how I would feel faced with that... but... for the close, loved ones who have left my life, I always try to remember a smile on their face, an happy moment together, remember them calling my name, something that I can remember that makes me smile too. I know it is a huge wall for you to climb to get to that point where you see the happy moments first, but with time you will get there. Now you have a lovely child, you can tell them just what a wonderful person their Grandfather was with a smile in your heart. Stay strong, take care.

[aposhark]

.........my stepdad died like SArs father of a heart attack, and i had to try and resuscitate him , something i'll never forget, those minutes til the ambulance came seemed like a life time but i knew he was dead ..

time is a great healer and i wish you well

Same thing happened to me with my Mum

We have to move on, there is no other way...........

Northampton Gir will also

[joebloggs]

Same thing happened to me with my Mum

We have to move on, there is no other way...........

Northampton Gir will also

yes mrshark, i've been thru the same with my mom, got a call my mom was in hospital, consultant and nurse in A & E took me to the room (been there b4 , i knew what they were going to say ) told me she wouldn't make it, nothing they could do, intensive care wouldn't even take her , they put her on a ward with a free bed to die, but against all odds and with the skill of a couple of consultants she pulled thru, was in a coma for 3 days, spent the next 6 months in hospital.. something kept her going. what i dont know .. that was nearly 6yrs ago