Is living together acceptable for a Filipino?

[sweetnote143]

for traditional Filipinos, living together before marriage is a

but for me, that's a personal choice....whether acceptable or not, it's not the real issue. your problem is trust, the lack of it, or just being cautious...once burned twice shy, so they say....even if you will find the most trustworthy woman in this world, you will find the hard time in trusting her because of your doubt, a bad fruit of previous relationships. Pre-nup is not even the answer nor living together without marriage. There is no assurance in this world, whether a relationship is going to last forever or will end tomorrow. Now you only have to make a decision, whether to trust again or not. You cant have both. There are many women out there who aren't after money, all they want is love and faithfulness in a relationship. Love is a risk, we all have to take that risk if we want real love.

[grahamw48]

for traditional Filipinos, living together before marriage is a

but for me, that's a personal choice....whether acceptable or not, it's not the real issue. your problem is trust, the lack of it, or just being cautious...once burned twice shy, so they say....even if you will find the most trustworthy woman in this world, you will find the hard time in trusting her because of your doubt, a bad fruit of previous relationships. Pre-nup is not even the answer nor living together without marriage. There is no assurance in this world, whether a relationship is going to last forever or will end tomorrow. Now you only have to make a decision, whether to trust again or not. You cant have both. There are many women out there who aren't after money, all they want is love and faithfulness in a relationship. Love is a risk, we all have to take that risk if we want real love.

I agree.

[Stevie]

for traditional Filipinos, living together before marriage is a

but for me, that's a personal choice....whether acceptable or not, it's not the real issue. your problem is trust, the lack of it, or just being cautious...once burned twice shy, so they say....even if you will find the most trustworthy woman in this world, you will find the hard time in trusting her because of your doubt, a bad fruit of previous relationships. Pre-nup is not even the answer nor living together without marriage. There is no assurance in this world, whether a relationship is going to last forever or will end tomorrow. Now you only have to make a decision, whether to trust again or not. You cant have both. There are many women out there who aren't after money, all they want is love and faithfulness in a relationship. Love is a risk, we all have to take that risk if we want real love.

My concern is not of trust but yes I do believe it is wise to be cautious

Just to help you understand my dilemma ... I am a widow after being happily married for over 26 years. I am simply looking for a lady to love and who loves and respects me, who wants to be with me for the rest of our lives. After my wife died I chose to take early retirement and now because of my age and the economic climate in the UK my earning potential is limited and my income is low. I have my own property but because of my low earning potential I can not afford to lose my home which has taken all my working life to get. My concern is not only for my self but for my partner who has her own property back in the Philippines. I wanted a way to reassure her that what she has worked for since she left her first husband would always still be there for her security.


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