ignorant know-it-alls

[Pauldo]

Originally posted by equaliser@Jan 7 2006, 02:07 PM
Hi guys

How do you deal with morons ? I was chatting to an aquaintance about my forthcoming marriage to my filipina fiancee when he started to spout off that they were all after money ....

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You mean they aren't ??????? :o




Seriously though, never argue with an idiot, they will only drag you down to their level and beat you with YEARS of experience.

[ginapeterb]

Originally posted by Pauldo@Jan 7 2006, 01:34 PM
You mean they aren't ??????? :o


Seriously though, never argue with an idiot, they will only drag you down to their level and beat you with YEARS of experience.

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Hello Equalizer,

Sadly as others have said, you will get this sort of repugnant commentary from so called freinds, and as the others have said, I have to say, I also had to deal with this, but what I found was, to associate with like minded people really helps, when I first joined Keith on this Forum, way way back at the start of my courtship to Gina, I needed to get the support of those who had been through what I was going through, I was glad to make Keiths acquaintance, in due course, I went on to meet others who were just like me, I was in a pub one night local to where I live, and I was talking about my association and relationship with a Filipino, sadly a woman actually made some comments, they made me sick, all i could do is leave and go home, I never did go back to the Pub again, I tended to keep out of them, then I found this forum, and joined, ever since I made it my business to find like minded people.

During my courtship with Gina I stayed close to this Forum and made freindships with other guys who were in my situation, I met my best freind Steve in exactly this way, we actually met at the Philippine Embassy in 2003, we both showed up to get a visa for our over the 21 day stay at christmas of that year, we stayed in touch, and became really good freinds, now his wife and mine are very good freinds, and Ive made lots of contacts along the way, been on the telephone with Rob and Elsa, Keith and Ping, and lots of others, like minded people are never negative about your relationship, the simple fact of truth is this.

You cannot explain your relationship with a Philippines lady to xenophobic people, they will never understand, just try to defend her, but if you cant get anywhere, drop those so called "mates" and move on, thats the best advice I could give, everyone who is xenophobic or small minded will always think that your GF is just after a visa and money, best of luck Equalizer, stay with the guys here on this forum, you will be much better off.

Best of luck with your courtship and future marriage, youve got lots of friends here, although we are all around the country, we will stick with you, and we wont poke fun at your choice of bride.

Warmest regards

Pete and Gina

[Pauldo]

Originally posted by ginapeterb@Jan 7 2006, 02:45 PM
Hello Equalizer,

You cannot explain your relationship with a Philippines lady to xenophobic people, they will never understand, just try to defend her, but if you cant get anywhere, drop those so called "mates" and move on, thats the best advice I could give, everyone who is xenophobic or small minded will always think that your GF is just after a visa and money, best of luck Equalizer, stay with the guys here on this forum, you will be much better off.

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I don't believe anyone on this forum fits that mould, but I generally find most all English people are like it to a certain degree. I left England 15 years ago to get away from the xenophobic sad mentality of the average Brit, but ended up moving back after 12 years for some silly reason. Nothing had changed, just got worse if anything.

I don't even go to pubs anymore, as nobody I meet there will have anything of interest to say to me. Most are too tied up in their own little English world to listen to anything I have to say about my 15 years travelling the globe. Any conversation usually devolves to football, house prices or drinking. I do love people watching though. I'll spend hours sitting in a cafe or bar somewhere, just to observe the small image that people carry around to present to others, rather like a snail with it's 'image' on it's back, to crawl into when need be. If they don't realise you are watching they will lower their shell for a while and expose the naked ape underneath.

I've been to 38 countries so far, some for a day, some for years, but sometimes I feel that I haven't learned anything through travelling, except a general dislike for people. I thought I really would gain a greater understanding of what makes people tick, but it was the opposite; the more I learned about the world and its occupants, the more I felt I didn't understand it.

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:unsure:

Jeez, that got awful philosophical all of a sudden. Must be the overdose of Lemsip capsules and Salabat Ginger Tea I brought back from the Philippines with me :(

I picked up a bug from the air con in the hotel and I feel like $hit now :(