I don't think that is a poor advice. It's a matter of preference..As malditako had said, if it was her who got abused. I myself would rather go back to the Philippines just in case, like malditako. I am capable enough to raise a kid in the Philippines and I don't really care whether I get a visa to stay here or not. I would rather be with the support and company of my whole family and friends in times of trouble than alone here in this foreign country. Only a family who doesn't care of the welfare of their relative would tell their daughter/sister to stay in a relationship or patch things up with the husband who abuses her.As I have always told my husband, if things don't go well with our marriage. I'll pack my bags and leave this country. Like I did when I was living in Singapore.