On culture shock, horror, and disgust: Some of the emotions from which I'm still reeling

[Trefor]

Looks like they have :-

My husband and I have been living in our own home since March,

I missed that

dontpushme - just create your own mini-world and ignore the in-laws.

[dontpushme]

I missed that

dontpushme - just create your own mini-world and ignore the in-laws.

That's alright! IT happens to the best of us.

Exactly, it's silly when people start generalizing. Anyway I'll leave this thread now

I was trying to address your comments without stooping to your level.

However, you give me no choice. My husband joined this forum before I did. Sadly, he has long since stopped coming back because, in his opinion, the men here don't want women they can't cow. I don't necessarily agree with him as I've had many fruitful debates and discussions with so many of the wonderful men here through the years.

Unfortunately, there are times when bad apples like you prove my husband right. You've done nothing to further the discussion on this thread, you've come in several times just to post nasty comments and personal jabs, and you've been a complete ass this whole time. Of your 39 measly forum posts since joining last year, 7 were nasty comments on this thread.

Thanks for spending about a fifth of your time on my thread. This discussion obviously means that much to you. Now I would thank you, sir, to go away and harass someone else.

[lordna]

That's alright! IT happens to the best of us.



I was trying to address your comments without stooping to your level.

However, you give me no choice. My husband joined this forum before I did. Sadly, he has long since stopped coming back because, in his opinion, the men here don't want women they can't cow. I don't necessarily agree with him as I've had many fruitful debates and discussions with so many of the wonderful men here through the years.

Unfortunately, there are times when bad apples like you prove my husband right. You've done nothing to further the discussion on this thread, you've come in several times just to post nasty comments and personal jabs, and you've been a complete ass this whole time. Of your 39 measly forum posts since joining last year, 7 were nasty comments on this thread.

Thanks for spending about a fifth of your time on my thread. This discussion obviously means that much to you. Now I would thank you, sir, to go away and harass someone else.

Well said!

[Michael Parnham]

That's alright! IT happens to the best of us.



I was trying to address your comments without stooping to your level. However, you give me no choice. My husband joined this forum before I did. Sadly, he has long since stopped coming back because, in his opinion, the men here don't want women they can't cow. I don't necessarily agree with him as I've had many fruitful debates and discussions with so many of the wonderful men here through the years. Unfortunately, there are times when bad apples like you prove my husband right. You've done nothing to further the discussion on this thread, you've come in several times just to post nasty comments and personal jabs, and you've been a complete ass this whole time. Of your 39 measly forum posts since joining last year, 7 were nasty comments on this thread. Thanks for spending about a fifth of your time on my thread. This discussion obviously means that much to you. Now I would thank you, sir, to go away and harass someone else.

Well RicIre, retire!

[SimonH]

Well RicIre, retire!

or maybe RetIre

[London_Manila]

That's alright! IT happens to the best of us.



I was trying to address your comments without stooping to your level.

However, you give me no choice. My husband joined this forum before I did. Sadly, he has long since stopped coming back because, in his opinion, the men here don't want women they can't cow. I don't necessarily agree with him as I've had many fruitful debates and discussions with so many of the wonderful men here through the years.

Unfortunately, there are times when bad apples like you prove my husband right. You've done nothing to further the discussion on this thread, you've come in several times just to post nasty comments and personal jabs, and you've been a complete ass this whole time. Of your 39 measly forum posts since joining last year, 7 were nasty comments on this thread.

Thanks for spending about a fifth of your time on my thread. This discussion obviously means that much to you. Now I would thank you, sir, to go away and harass someone else.

Love it

[dontpushme]

That's a big tar brush you've got!!

I don't agree with most of your post but then again that is your rant.

All I can say is, you should have a bit of knowledge of England before you come here. Anyway, give yourself a chance - if you still don't like it in more months to come, it's not a law to stay here or you can always try moving to a more affluent area.

I know it looks like a lot to take in, but points 1, 2, and 4 all pertain to health, hygiene, and sanitation; points 5 and 6 pertain to how the younger generation is raised or treated by the older generation; and point 3 is just about the frustration I feel being corrected when I'm not wrong and the people correcting me don't even know what's right.

I agree that it would've been better had I known more before moving, but for most of the last 6 years, the plan was for us to live in Manila. We had talked about it, and I was so sure the plan wouldn't change that when I moved back to the Philippines from the US, I gave away all my winter clothes and prepared for my husband's move. The reason I've gotten so desperate as to ask for insight from practical strangers is that out here, the only people I have are my in-laws. I'm not really going to get objective answers from them, I think.

What does money have to do with any of this?

Absolutely ..I find this back slapping nauseating

When I first married we lived with our inlaws...big mistake, we fell out them and didn't talk to them for a couple of years. You don't live with your inlaws out of choice...if you do, you abide by their rules..if you don't like it, get out...which is what we did. Work is more plentiful now than what it was in the early 80s so there's no excuse

I'm sorry you feel that way. It may be that negative comments about the Philippines aren't allowed on this forum, but I personally have never lambasted or bashed anyone for their valid comments about my country or my people, whether they be positive or negative. Maybe now's a good time to discuss why the negative comments aren't allowed here.

As regards the falling out, that's exactly why I'm here asking for help. Look at post #67 and you'll see I have no problem telling someone exactly what I think of him. Unless I care about that person, that is. I've been miserable because I adore my mother-in-law. She is a very kind, thoughtful, sweet, big-hearted, lovely, giving person, and she is beautiful inside and out. Unfortunately, she's also been a threat to my and my baby's health. The whole time I lived with my in-laws, I followed her rules to the letter, including and up to staying awake during the day even though I was pregnant and I worked nights. She insisted that it wasn't good for anyone to sleep during the day so I stayed awake for her knowing I'd be a bit braindead while working. During that time, I was sick more often than usual, but I followed her rules anyway. As for getting out, that's what we did as soon as we could.

your family is chockful ( sic )

LOL. I just noticed this. I've always been partial to the shorter version of the word, but I take it chock-full is the English spelling?