Am I bonkers?

[keithAngel]

My friend says she does a 52 hour week ...has a good job and earns about 10,000piso a month with six in the house rent 4000 her brother contributes 1000 toward rent then there is electric and water about 1300 a month they are still buying snacks from the market and such......when i asked how much for a really comfortable life with bigger house etc she said 30000........but it has always been my experience that everyone tends to live up to their income when it increases so do their aspirations ,my friend sure has TV...DVD...PC and on line at home cell phone home phone all of which eat resources......until i get there i credit her with being autonomous and whilst i might send an occasional gift i will not send money until we have met and confirmed our interest in each other.

Trust in God and tie up your camel is my advice everyone has a legitimate need for survival....its not of its self connected to love and romance though on balance I think you are being scammed I have many experiences of this myself without financial loss so far

[aromulus]

until i get there i credit her with being autonomous and whilst i might send an occasional gift i will not send money until we have met and confirmed our interest in each other.

Totally agree with you.

My wife never asked for money, she was working and contributing to her family welfare.
After we met the second time, and both realized that we were mutually compatible, I started with some financial help.
She left her job, and was there 24/7 for me, waiting for my call to be online.
On my second trip over, I did bring a small pc with me, to leave with her, had her connected to broadband, and phone line in the house.
The only times she actually asked me to send "her allowance" was when I forgot to do it, due to the traveling involved with my job. And the bills for the above were overdue.

Now that she is here with me, she is in contact with her family very often, and due to her working herself, she is able to help her family financially.
Although they are not asking for a penny.

[IainBusby]

until i get there i credit her with being autonomous and whilst i might send an occasional gift i will not send money until we have met and confirmed our interest in each other.

When I first met my gf (now wife), although I was never asked to send money by her, I had been asked by others and had already decided this was the position I would take from the outset with any possible relationship online.

My wife never asked for money, she was working and contributing to her family welfare.

Same here. Even when I asked her to meet me in Manila when I first went to Phils to visit her and she agreed, she asked me if she should borrow the money for the airfare and was quite prepared to do so. I did of course send her the money for this.

After we met the second time, and both realized that we were mutually compatible, I started with some financial help

I started with financial help after the first visit.

On my second trip over, I did bring a small pc with me, to leave with her, had her connected to broadband, and phone line in the house

Almost the same here but in my case, I sent the money for the PC etc after the first visit.

The only times she actually asked me to send "her allowance" was when I forgot to do it, due to the traveling involved with my job. And the bills for the above were overdue.

Same here more or less.


Iain.