Originally Posted by
mickandsherryl
Just this morning my husband and i argued online and i was even loud or maybe screamed already at him on headphone. He was still calm but admitted he almost explode and might say things that he might regret in the end.
It just stared last wek friday that he asked me to rate him from 1 to 10 and i asked him in return too to rate me and his ex wife. I asked him to rate his ex wife now that they are over and im his new wife and to rate her as well before they split up and thy still have good relationship and when they was still together but was still fat coz she already lose now. He rated her 10 when they was still together and when their relationship was still strong and he rated her 7 when she becomes fat and still together too and now that they are over and lose weight he rated her 7 still. He said that she has good body now compared before but she becomes older in her face already too while before she was fat but prettier. I asked him whats his rate to me and he answered 10 but he added to be honest if i am going to choose now between you and her, well if i will consider looks wise i will choose you but if i will consider personality wise i will choose her. I understand that she is really different to me. She is quite and preferred to keep her felings even she is upset while i am more showy if i am upset and mad which he said he is more prefered that i will tell him if i am upset coz atleast he can make things right and sort problem not like his ex that would just pretend happy and suddenly just explode and left him. Its like i appreciate his honesty but it made me annoyed. It made me feel maybe i am really a buang asawa.
I asked him again whos is the girl u ever love the most?. I asked him lots of times already and his answer is i dont want to answer that or sometimes he will say its me. But Last friday i made him admit and he said his ex wife.
I know i am crazy for being jealous but sometimes i cant help it.
I did asked him why is ur ex wife the girl u love the most and he said the lenght of time coz they was married for 20 years and had 2 kids. I said why i cant be the girl u ever love the most i am ur wife now and i have the right and reason to want that. He said i will be if i am in Uk already.
I asked him again is it just the lenght of time or its because of the personality she is much nicer than me and im not and he said no the lenght of time which i think is a lie coz he said it already if he will choose personality wise he will choose her.
I feel so bad and feel so insecure this time.
He asked my apology and cried and said sorry for making me upset and said he wanted to lie to please me but he cant just do it and it just made me feel more bad.
He said if only he can alter his past he will to make me happy.
He said he loves me lots and im the most important thing in his life now and thats what matters most and that i will be the girl he will love the most in his life coz i will be with him forever and we will have more happy times together.
We was okay already yesterday and we argue again this morning about his daughter so we decided to give each other space untill i go back to my normal self thats what he said. He said that i am not the girl he marry that i changed.
I want to be a good asawa to him and make him happy.
But its like i am not good enough to him that he said He will choose her personality than mine, when she left him and cheated on him once.
I really dont know what to feel i just feel to low.
To those who has divorce husband how did u able to handle ur husbands ex wife and not get jealous with her.
I dont want to be jealous anymore coz it upsets me and its not nice and it upsets him at the same time. But it does bother me now that he likes her personality more than mine. I really feel low and insecure and i feel bad that maybe i am not good enough to him.
