Age Difference... When Is Too Much Just Too Much..??

[Ayjay]

As the saying goes "AGE DOESN'T MATTER"... Some doesn't mind at all of their age differences as long as they say love binds so strongly. In my opinion, if the age gap is say 27 yrs (as this is the topic) the social standing is considered and if they are of the same category then people won't bother to talk about it anymore but, if the social standing is somewhat different then it is always being talked about. Perhaps some of the filipinos here know the filipino lady named Lisa Macuja she is a ballerina and she was in her 30's(30-32) (correct me if i'm wrong) when she married her husband age 51 or somewhat in his 50's which is her father's friend. Some filipino ladies named Charo Santos and Loren Legarda as well has married a much older men. They also has a great age gap. That age difference is not a big deal for they both belong to the same social group. Just my views.

Hi Pepe..

I think you have hit the nail on the head when you consider social groupings. How many times do we see young women married to or hanging around much older male actors for example. The same applies to older women actors etc with young husband or toy boy companions.

Here in the UK for example, a 27 year age gap in normal social circles would be very out of place and be frowned upon. Such mismatches reinforce the stereotype of Asian women as being in it for the money only.

I know its a wrong perception, demonstrating an ignorance of the individuals circumstances, and cultural issues.

However, perceptions are what endure..

AJ

[Pepe n Pilar]

Hi Pepe..

I think you have hit the nail on the head when you consider social groupings. How many times do we see young women married to or hanging around much older male actors for example. The same applies to older women actors etc with young husband or toy boy companions.

Here in the UK for example, a 27 year age gap in normal social circles would be very out of place and be frowned upon. Such mismatches reinforce the stereotype of Asian women as being in it for the money only.

I know its a wrong perception, demonstrating an ignorance of the individuals circumstances, and cultural issues.

However, perceptions are what endure..

AJ

I know what you mean. I can digest it very well. I watched the program UK Border Force, there was one segment there that a Wales woman aged 60 was interviewed before the visa was issued because her Indian bf is aged 30. He can't speak English and has to ask for an interpreter. The Immigration officer was in doubt if it is really love that binds the two or was it something else? That is not to be judged but of course it is normal that there is another reason.

So the normal perception is.... an old woman with a young bloke = a toy boy
a young woman with an old bloke = security

Although love exists....... whatever reasons they may have they should not be judged.

Cheers!

[Tawi2]

Very wise words P&P,your a student of human behaviour and quite observant

[adam&chryss]

I know what you mean. I can digest it very well. I watched the program UK Border Force, there was one segment there that a Wales woman aged 60 was interviewed before the visa was issued because her Indian bf is aged 30. He can't speak English and has to ask for an interpreter. The Immigration officer was in doubt if it is really love that binds the two or was it something else? That is not to be judged but of course it is normal that there is another reason.

So the normal perception is an old woman with a young bloke = a toy boy
a young woman with an old bloke = security
Although love exists....... whatever reasons they may have they should not be judged.

[Ayjay]

So the normal perception is.... an old woman with a young bloke = a toy boy
a young woman with an old bloke = security

Although love exists....... whatever reasons they may have they should not be judged.

Cheers!

Hi Pepe...

Thanks for the cool reply. As I mentioned its perceptions that trigger social responses..

AJ

[Pepe n Pilar]

Very wise words P&P,your a student of human behaviour and quite observant

Thanks Tawi2... yes i am very observant..

Hi Pepe...

Thanks for the cool reply. As I mentioned its perceptions that trigger social responses..

AJ

You're welcome Ayjay.... Yes it is the general perception that upsets people....Although we give reasons.... this and that... it is the peoples' perception and we can't tell everyone and force them to believe... Each one has its own views on everything....