Age Difference... When Is Too Much Just Too Much..??

[Northerner]

No it does not. If you trawl this thread you will observe the discussions revolve around extended age differences typically greater than 20 years, and into trans generational marriages, and the motivation behind same..

AJ

AJ, I was adding a sprinkling of light humour to the thread!

Now, getting serious.

I can understand you might find an older man marrying a younger woman 'out of line', as it can be daunting to many. But we have seen it countless times in society, and not just through marriages to foreign nationals. I recall when I was about 10 years old a friend of mine used to visit his father at the weekend, his father had remarried to a woman of around 25. He was about 45 at the time! He was not rich or (to my recollection) a very good looking man. But he met and fell in love with a woman old enough to be his daughter!

Was that wrong?

Well, I am sure some people said it was. But then people like to pass their opinions around a lot and gossip about other peoples lives, and there were only two opinions that mattered.

[Ayjay]

AJ, I was adding a sprinkling of light humour to the thread!

Now, getting serious.

I can understand you might find an older man marrying a younger woman 'out of line', as it can be daunting to many. But we have seen it countless times in society, and not just through marriages to foreign nationals. I recall when I was about 10 years old a friend of mine used to visit his father at the weekend, his father had remarried to a woman of around 25. He was about 45 at the time! He was not rich or (to my recollection) a very good looking man. But he met and fell in love with a woman old enough to be his daughter!

Was that wrong?

Well, I am sure some people said it was. But then people like to pass their opinions around a lot and gossip about other peoples lives, and there were only two opinions that mattered.

Hi Northerner,

Thanks for the clarifications, unfortunately when the almighty wash dishing out humor I was at the back of the queu...

Yes indeed, we are trading in opinions on this thread, and all have equal weight..

Regards

AJ

[Northerner]

Hi Northerner,

Thanks for the clarifications, unfortunately when the almighty wash dishing out humor I was at the back of the queu...

Yes indeed, we are trading in opinions on this thread, and all have equal weight..

Regards

AJ

Not all opinions have equal weight!

A devout Muslim might be of the opinion that the female form should be covered at all times to protect the gaze of any men who pass her by. A devout Christian might be of the opinion that two men cannot engage in a sexual relationship. Indeed it was once popular opinion that people of a none white colour could be sold as slaves, but it soon gave way to a new overpowering opinion.

But as a society, we try to encourage personal freedom and choice. So long as those choices harm nobody else. Therefore, if a 22 year old woman chooses to marry a 52 year old man, it is her choice and must be adhered to.

[Ayjay]

Not all opinions have equal weight!

A devout Muslim might be of the opinion that the female form should be covered at all times to protect the gaze of any men who pass her by. A devout Christian might be of the opinion that two men cannot engage in a sexual relationship. Indeed it was once popular opinion that people of a none white colour could be sold as slaves, but it soon gave way to a new overpowering opinion.

But as a society, we try to encourage personal freedom and choice. So long as those choices harm nobody else. Therefore, if a 22 year old woman chooses to marry a 52 year old man, it is her choice and must be adhered to.

An irrelevant diversion. And you choice for comparison is poor. Many Muslim women desire the freedom of choice that we enjoy in Western society. Most, Muslim societies do not take into account the feelings of the woman in such cases. In reality she would be told who she was to marry, and in some fundamentalist Islamic states would be sold into marriage.

Incidentally our troops are fighting in Afghanistan to support a regime that has recently passed into law that it is acceptable for male Shia's to deprive their wives of food if they refuse to have sex.

This forum appears to be based upon Western Christian values, and as such all opinions posted here have equal weight within this context.

It would be of no surprise to find that our opinions were unacceptable on a Hindu etc forum..

AJ

[Northerner]

AJ, would you support a law prohibiting marriage or sexual congress between a couple with an age gap of 20 years or over?

[Ayjay]

AJ, would you support a law prohibiting marriage or sexual congress between a couple with an age gap of 20 years or over?

Certainly not. As I have mentioned before we are only trading opinions on this thread..

AJ

[GaryFifer]

Certainly not. As I have mentioned before we are only trading opinions on this thread..

AJ

So, does that apply to any children you have AJ? We all know children break rules that our parents made. Emotions cannot be made law

[Northerner]

Certainly not. As I have mentioned before we are only trading opinions on this thread..

AJ

Then you accept that your opinion is of a lesser weight! If you are not prepared to pass a law along with your opinion, it is trivial at best..

[KeithD]

This forum appears to be based upon Western Christian values,.....

You certainly don't know this forum then!