No it does not. If you trawl this thread you will observe the discussions revolve around extended age differences typically greater than 20 years, and into trans generational marriages, and the motivation behind same..Originally Posted by Northerner
Rizza is 24 and I am 32... That makes me a sugar daddy
AJ
Hi Tawi,
Exactly, this hypothetical situation is typically made light of by those already engaged in such time shifted relationships. I suspect that if this situation presented itself within the context of a UK social environment, then the reaction would be totally different.
AJ
Then sir, your motives would be solely based on what you could get out of the relationship, irrespective of what your partners aspirations are. A poor result...if i was 70 yo and alone and for whatever reason could get a 20yo partner i really wouldnt care what anyone else thought-even if it was only short lived
AJ
AJ, I was adding a sprinkling of light humour to the thread!
Now, getting serious.
I can understand you might find an older man marrying a younger woman 'out of line', as it can be daunting to many. But we have seen it countless times in society, and not just through marriages to foreign nationals. I recall when I was about 10 years old a friend of mine used to visit his father at the weekend, his father had remarried to a woman of around 25. He was about 45 at the time! He was not rich or (to my recollection) a very good looking man. But he met and fell in love with a woman old enough to be his daughter!
Was that wrong?
Well, I am sure some people said it was. But then people like to pass their opinions around a lot and gossip about other peoples lives, and there were only two opinions that mattered.
No relationship built upon desperation will succeed in the long term. If you think that any woman would sincerely love you with a relationship so based, then sir, no offence, you are completely delusional..
AJ
I think what he would get from that relationship would be a heart attack caused by boobies.Imagine, the police turning up to take a photograph of the murder weapons in question..
Could you stand over there please.
It's time to kick ass and chew bubble gum. And I'm all out of gum.
I shouldn't have had kids when I was still in my twenties
Another creepy situation was my friend married a lady of 56 and he was 26. And consequently she left her previous husband for toyboyI shouldn't have had kids when I was still in my twenties
She had a daughter who was 16, and thus my friend said something rather creepy: Wow she's cute.
They broke up after 1 year.
It's time to kick ass and chew bubble gum. And I'm all out of gum.
Hi Northerner,AJ, I was adding a sprinkling of light humour to the thread!
Now, getting serious.
I can understand you might find an older man marrying a younger woman 'out of line', as it can be daunting to many. But we have seen it countless times in society, and not just through marriages to foreign nationals. I recall when I was about 10 years old a friend of mine used to visit his father at the weekend, his father had remarried to a woman of around 25. He was about 45 at the time! He was not rich or (to my recollection) a very good looking man. But he met and fell in love with a woman old enough to be his daughter!
Was that wrong?
Well, I am sure some people said it was. But then people like to pass their opinions around a lot and gossip about other peoples lives, and there were only two opinions that mattered.
Thanks for the clarifications, unfortunately when the almighty wash dishing out humor I was at the back of the queu...
Yes indeed, we are trading in opinions on this thread, and all have equal weight..
Regards
AJ
I may well be delusional in your eyes, but I happen to know one particular couple that using the word "desperate" would be to put it mildly.
They recently had their 22nd anniversary and they have 3 kids, 20, 16, 11.
When they married she was 21, and he was 54 year old divorced welsh farmer, and she didn't hide the fact that she wanted a passport, as she was a refugee from Uganda.
But enough of that.
You have your opinions and I respect it.
AJ were you really born in 1922?
It's time to kick ass and chew bubble gum. And I'm all out of gum.
Not all opinions have equal weight!
A devout Muslim might be of the opinion that the female form should be covered at all times to protect the gaze of any men who pass her by. A devout Christian might be of the opinion that two men cannot engage in a sexual relationship. Indeed it was once popular opinion that people of a none white colour could be sold as slaves, but it soon gave way to a new overpowering opinion.
But as a society, we try to encourage personal freedom and choice. So long as those choices harm nobody else. Therefore, if a 22 year old woman chooses to marry a 52 year old man, it is her choice and must be adhered to.
Hi Guys,
No, not in 1922, its a smoke screen I disperse in order to conceal my true state of decrepitude and dilapidation..
AJ
Ok enough of the smoke screen
Like I said, I saw my friend marry an older woman but it did not work out for him.What are your experiences about this subject? Stop talking like a psychiatrist. No relationship built upon desperation will succeed in the long term. If you think that any woman would sincerely love you with a relationship so based, then sir, no offence, you are completely delusional.. that will be 200 for my session please.
It's time to kick ass and chew bubble gum. And I'm all out of gum.
I think what he would get from that relationship would be a heart attack caused by boobies.
Could you stand over there please.
hell of a way to go tho
An irrelevant diversion. And you choice for comparison is poor. Many Muslim women desire the freedom of choice that we enjoy in Western society. Most, Muslim societies do not take into account the feelings of the woman in such cases. In reality she would be told who she was to marry, and in some fundamentalist Islamic states would be sold into marriage.
Incidentally our troops are fighting in Afghanistan to support a regime that has recently passed into law that it is acceptable for male Shia's to deprive their wives of food if they refuse to have sex.
This forum appears to be based upon Western Christian values, and as such all opinions posted here have equal weight within this context.
It would be of no surprise to find that our opinions were unacceptable on a Hindu etc forum..
AJ
AJ, would you support a law prohibiting marriage or sexual congress between a couple with an age gap of 20 years or over?
Certainly not. As I have mentioned before we are only trading opinions on this thread..
AJ
So, does that apply to any children you have AJ? We all know children break rules that our parents made. Emotions cannot be made law
It's time to kick ass and chew bubble gum. And I'm all out of gum.
Then you accept that your opinion is of a lesser weight! If you are not prepared to pass a law along with your opinion, it is trivial at best..
Right now under the right circumstances it might well be "Kerching...."
On the other hand if he were an over 50's bum like me, I might wonder if she had lost the plot
My 23 year old daughter has just finished Uni, has her whole life ahead of her and I respect her opinions and her choices in life, she has made very good ones so far, I will always give her advice but I will not seek to control her choices in life!
Jim
at 70 of course it is
but tell me a 70 yo bloke that wouldnt
Well said Jim. I will just wish joy to my child and wish he is happy. So in the end, we are left with the choices we make in life. It is up to our parents to arm us as best they can, with the knowledge and life experiences good and bad. Control of whom people love is impossible.Right now under the right circumstances it might well be "Kerching...."
On the other hand if he were an over 50's bum like me, I might wonder if she had lost the plot
My 23 year old daughter has just finished Uni, has her whole life ahead of her and I respect her opinions and her choices in life, she has made very good ones so far, I will always give her advice but I will not seek to control her choices in life!
Jim
It's time to kick ass and chew bubble gum. And I'm all out of gum.
whats the big deal?
i dont like a very big gap as i often think what will i have in common with someone so much younger.
but each to there own and why should my opinion rain on someone elses parade,i do find it interesting why you feel upto 20 years is ok but above that is unacceptable...
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
As we both know jim,some pinoy fathers(note,I said some)reactions would indeed be "Kerching" its more socially acceptable over there,thats just how it is,and part of that root-cause is poverty,anyone can dress it up in fancy-clothes but poverty causes people to do things out of character,someone once asked me "Do you think its every young pinay girls dream to marry a middle-aged westerner"?It was a pinay who asked the question,it was rhetoricalRight now under the right circumstances it might well be "Kerching...."
On the other hand if he were an over 50's bum like me, I might wonder if she had lost the plot
My 23 year old daughter has just finished Uni, has her whole life ahead of her and I respect her opinions and her choices in life, she has made very good ones so far, I will always give her advice but I will not seek to control her choices in life!
Jim
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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Re read post number 76 concerning the context in which the discussions on this thread are taking place.
Your association with the weight of an individuals opinion and the ability to pass legislation is somewhat obscure to say the least.
If there are enough individuals with equal opinions concerning a particular issue. Then all have equal weight at the ballot box when they try to elect representatives with similar opinions, however objectionable they may be.
They may, or may not be outnumbered by people with differing opinions, but both have equal weight in our society.
AJ
Korek
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
Rather like the speed limit really, one has to draw a line in the sand somewhere..
AJ
Good luck with that one, when you hear the fatal cry "But I love him Daddy"
It's time to kick ass and chew bubble gum. And I'm all out of gum.
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