Age Difference... When Is Too Much Just Too Much..??

[Queenbee]

i have a lot of strong opinions on the matter. I don't really want to say all that i feel, as it would not be my place. There are only 5 years separation between my age and my wife's (she's younger by 5 years).

I would say this though:

One of my neighbours is an aussie who's pushing 70 and he's married to a little 22 year old.

If they have kids, she'll be a single mother before she hits 30 and the kid will be deprived a father. Or, they will have no kids and the wife will be young enough to start a family from 30 years old, and she'll have all the inheritance from the aussie guy. The aussie understands this.

In some ways it's like a business relationship, in that she offers him a hot young wife and he offers her a way out of poverty for her and her family.


In my relationship, my wife knew before we got married (long before) that i'm not wealthy, and i'm working class etc. She had her choice of guys including very wealthy and moderately wealthy guys. She was not impressed.

Look, marry for love. Think of the consequences if you're gonna procreate, other than that people like me with my opinion should just butt out.

So in closing, i'd like to say: ...

if you didn't like what i just said, please ignore my words and enjoy your life, just be happy

yep marry for love!

[Queenbee]

hi queenbee sorry if i have offended you, i was'nt referring my message to you, i actually respect your opinion..
regarding about my message , i was just agreeing of what pennyberry said..and i just added a little bit..
and also when i was replying i did'nt think of any person who i am going to disagree with..i was just also stating my opinion and just saying what is on my mind..

and about the narrow minded thing "bato-bato sa langit ,ang tamaan wag magalit poh"

no i think u got me wrong,,,i wasnt offended,i was jst expressing what i believe and what's on my mind,cz i thought u were referring to what i said that young women dating 25 years older than them doesnt work for me,,Just like what mr AJ said this forum probably has a disproportionate number of inter-generational marriages, and age chasm relationships and so pinions expressed will be skewed...

and i think if someone doesnt like what i said, they just have to ignore it and just be happy,,,

[pumpkins]

no i think u got me wrong,,,i wasnt offended,i was jst expressing what i believe and what's on my mind,cz i thought u were referring to what i said that young women dating 25 years older than them doesnt work for me,,Just like what mr AJ said this forum probably has a disproportionate number of inter-generational marriages, and age chasm relationships and so pinions expressed will be skewed...

and i think if someone doesnt like what i said, they just have to ignore it and just be happy,,,

yes queenbee you are right ..
we are just expressing each other opinions..there is no right or wrong with our opinion.we have different views in our life.
and in the first place, i did'nt react to any opinion here

[Ayjay]

and i think if someone doesnt like what i said, they just have to ignore it and just be happy,,,

Again you hit the nail on the head. However, be aware that there are those here that consider this subject to be off limits... I assume that the subject is just a little relevant and sensitive for them..

Others enter into a pretty decent exchange of views..

AJ

[Pepe n Pilar]

please pumpkins what does that tagalog expression mean in english?

Hi James Hubbard,
This is an old English....I wil try...

Me thinks the lady doth protest too much...
Perhaps some members can translate it better.

Cheers

[GaryFifer]

Is love better without any teeth?

[bornatbirth]

Is love better without any teeth?

depends if your eating toffee or getting a bj

i still dont understand why over 20 years is a problem,if every 10 years is a generation gap then you should be objecting to any relationship with over a 10 year gap

and if i had a wife 20/30 years younger than me,i will be in trouble as im still married to my current wife

[Pepe n Pilar]

What if a 27 year old woman just finished her course in Medicine and is now working in a hospital as a Pediatrician and she has a bf aged 51 a neurosurgeon. They both belong to the same social group, living in the same posh subdivision and both are of the same profession. Is this worthy of discussion???

[GaryFifer]

What if a 27 year old woman just finished her course in Medicine and is now working in a hospital as a Pediatrician and she has a bf aged 51 a neurosurgeon. They both belong to the same social group, living in the same posh subdivision and both are of the same profession. Is this worthy of discussion?

Well for a change someone can say to them"you 2 need your heads looked at!"

If it's my daughter. I just hope she is happy.

[Queenbee]

Again you hit the nail on the head. However, be aware that there are those here that consider this subject to be off limits... I assume that the subject is just a little relevant and sensitive for them..

Others enter into a pretty decent exchange of views..

AJ

ye ur definitely right AJ
im just actually translating what pumpins said...BATO BATO SA LANGIT,ANG TAMAAN wAG MAGALIT...

[Mrs Daddy]

OH!dear I have enough of this non-sense this thread title has been going on and on for ages and ages.Please can we all discuss something else as its not our damn business to mind others anyway I must admit Me and my other half have an age gap but we didn`t make it as an issue we are happy and that`s all that matters.(BOW!)

[GaryFifer]

ye ur definitely right AJ
im just actually translating what pumpins said...BATO BATO SA LANGIT,ANG TAMAAN wAG MAGALIT...

Bato(stone)
Langit(heavens)
Tamaan (to hit)
magalit (to get angry)

So I assume you are hitting the heavens with stones

[Queenbee]

bato(stone)
langit(heavens)
tamaan (to hit)
magalit (to get angry)

so i assume you are hitting the heavens with stones :erm:

hehe getting there!:d

[Queenbee]

OH!dear I have enough of this non-sense this thread title has been going on and on for ages and ages.Please can we all discuss something else as its not our damn business to mind others anyway I must admit Me and my other half have an age gap but we didn`t make it as an issue we are happy and that`s all that matters.(BOW!)

yep i agree...

[JimOttley]

Just a little observation of real life outside of an internet forum.

I've just spent a couple of hours on one of my preferred pastimes, which is catching up on the news, reading my New Scientist magazine in the pub, while having a couple of beers. I would not be such a sad old git if my partner and kids were here in the UK but they will get here eventually

My point is that after "x" number of beers I sometimes get into observation mode or people watching mode and tonight that was quite interesting in the pub.

Lots of young folk lots of old folk were in but there was one old lad that caught my attention, 65 or older, suit, bit overweight, hair mostly gone, more chins than you could count, standing at the bar talking to his mates and listening to the disco that was on tonight.

Anyway on comes a song, it's "I've got a feeling" (probably not the correct title) by the Black Eyed Peas this old guy was singing every word and dancing at the bar while he drank his Bacardi and coke, he was seriously into this song really got moving and it was clearly because it got into his soul not just because it's a trendy song.

Inside his head this guy does not feel like a 65 year old, he's just a guy! With all the pain, sorrow, regrets and loneliness that any of us can feel at any stage in our lives!

Yeah he looked like he was a few steps from the grave but that foot tappin head boppin old guy was seriously enjoying that song, just as all the other younger folk in the pub were.

Point is the container might be decrepit but what does it matter if the person proves themselves to others by who and what they are and how they treat the people around them.

Anyone who gets into any relationship at any age should be judged on who they are in their heart and soul not on their appearance!


Jim

[somebody]

Just a little observation of real life outside of an internet forum.

I've just spent a couple of hours on one of my preferred pastimes, which is catching up on the news, reading my New Scientist magazine in the pub, while having a couple of beers. I would not be such a sad old git if my partner and kids were here in the UK but they will get here eventually

My point is that after "x" number of beers I sometimes get into observation mode or people watching mode and tonight that was quite interesting in the pub.

Lots of young folk lots of old folk were in but there was one old lad that caught my attention, 65 or older, suit, bit overweight, hair mostly gone, more chins than you could count, standing at the bar talking to his mates and listening to the disco that was on tonight.

Anyway on comes a song, it's "I've got a feeling" (probably not the correct title) by the Black Eyed Peas this old guy was singing every word and dancing at the bar while he drank his Bacardi and coke, he was seriously into this song really got moving and it was clearly because it got into his soul not just because it's a trendy song.

Inside his head this guy does not feel like a 65 year old, he's just a guy! With all the pain, sorrow, regrets and loneliness that any of us can feel at any stage in our lives!

Yeah he looked like he was a few steps from the grave but that foot tappin head boppin old guy was seriously enjoying that song, just as all the other younger folk in the pub were.

Point is the container might be decrepit but what does it matter if the person proves themselves to others by who and what they are and how they treat the people around them.

Anyone who gets into any relationship at any age should be judged on who they are in their heart and soul not on their appearance!


Jim

Spot on and I know and have known of plenty of people who are young but act by most people standards if they are much much older..

[Queenbee]

just a little observation of real life outside of an internet forum.

I've just spent a couple of hours on one of my preferred pastimes, which is catching up on the news, reading my new scientist magazine in the pub, while having a couple of beers. I would not be such a sad old git if my partner and kids were here in the uk but they will get here eventually

my point is that after "x" number of beers i sometimes get into observation mode or people watching mode and tonight that was quite interesting in the pub.

Lots of young folk lots of old folk were in but there was one old lad that caught my attention, 65 or older, suit, bit overweight, hair mostly gone, more chins than you could count, standing at the bar talking to his mates and listening to the disco that was on tonight.

Anyway on comes a song, it's "i've got a feeling" (probably not the correct title) by the black eyed peas this old guy was singing every word and dancing at the bar while he drank his bacardi and coke, he was seriously into this song really got moving and it was clearly because it got into his soul not just because it's a trendy song.

Inside his head this guy does not feel like a 65 year old, he's just a guy! With all the pain, sorrow, regrets and loneliness that any of us can feel at any stage in our lives!

Yeah he looked like he was a few steps from the grave but that foot tappin head boppin old guy was seriously enjoying that song, just as all the other younger folk in the pub were.

Point is the container might be decrepit but what does it matter if the person proves themselves to others by who and what they are and how they treat the people around them.

Anyone who gets into any relationship at any age should be judged on who they are in their heart and soul not on their appearance!


Jim

real good point jim..i totally agree on this..

[Arthur Little]

Inside his head this guy does not feel like a 65 year old, he's just a guy! With all the pain, sorrow, regrets and loneliness that any of us can feel at any stage in our lives!

Jim

Know the feeling well, Jim. I sometimes [fondly imagine] I'M still "25" too ... except - sooner rather than later - I realise I no longer have the same stamina as I had at that age. Tempus fugit, it seems - the older one gets!

[JimOttley]

Know the feeling well, Jim. I sometimes [fondly imagine] I'M still "25" too ... except - sooner rather than later - I realise I no longer have the same stamina as I had at that age. Tempus fugit, it seems - the older one gets!

Indeed Arthur, time does move far too fast but you are still 25 sir you only have to choose to be so still and I think you were very probably the same very kind and considerate man when you were that physical age.

As you allude, the physical problems do mount up as the years go by.

I'm at that point where my perfect eyesight is anything but now and I've been losing my hair and going gray now for the last 5 years but I'm getting used to it and getting rather fond of the gray look these days


Jim

[SteveL]

Blimey....

This well deserves some rep.

I like it, Can I quote you, mate...???

For a small fee

[WillsG25]

I think that if the Philippines were not so soaked in poverty, there would be a lot less old westerners married to young Filipina. I think that there are many western guys taking advantage of the fact they have the attraction of the wallet and foriegn passport. How could it be that a girl of 20 be physically attracted to one 25 years her senior! How many old guys do you see with a relatively wealthy girl? I could never see nor accept a guy dating my daughter who is over 10 years older than her. My wife in 2 years older than I, so I have nothing to be ashamed of, my family were shocked when they first visited the Philippines to see a vast majority of old guys with these yound girls! Many take that long trip from the UK to find the young little thing, may it be Philippines, Thailand or China. But at the end of the day it is not my place to judge one unless it involves memebers of my family, I am sure in these mentioned relationships both parties are happy, but I would seriously doubt that all of them are of true love!

[KeithD]

I think that if the Philippines were not so soaked in poverty, there would be a lot less old westerners married to young Filipina. I think that there are many western guys taking advantage of the fact they have the attraction of the wallet and foriegn passport. How could it be that a girl of 20 be physically attracted to one 25 years her senior!

You haven't read this thread very well, do we need to put it in pictures to make it easier?

More Brit-Brit age gap relationships exist than Brit-Foreigner , and you'll find more Brit-EU age gap relationships than Brit-Asia.

[Queenbee]

I think that if the Philippines were not so soaked in poverty, there would be a lot less old westerners married to young Filipina. I think that there are many western guys taking advantage of the fact they have the attraction of the wallet and foriegn passport. How could it be that a girl of 20 be physically attracted to one 25 years her senior! How many old guys do you see with a relatively wealthy girl? I could never see nor accept a guy dating my daughter who is over 10 years older than her. My wife in 2 years older than I, so I have nothing to be ashamed of, my family were shocked when they first visited the Philippines to see a vast majority of old guys with these yound girls! Many take that long trip from the UK to find the young little thing, may it be Philippines, Thailand or China. But at the end of the day it is not my place to judge one unless it involves memebers of my family, I am sure in these mentioned relationships both parties are happy, but I would seriously doubt that all of them are of true love!

YEP THAT'S wHAT I BELIEVE TOOO,THAT I CAN NEVER EVER BE IN A RELATIONSHIP wHERE I CAN BE wITH A GUY 20 PLUS YEARS THAN ME,EVEN 10 YEARS.BUT HEY THATS JUST ME...IF SOME PEOPLE ARE HAPPY THEN CONGRATS TO THEM...

I ALSO ADMIRE THESE YOUNG GIRLS' COURAGE...BEING IN A SOCIETY wHERE PEOPLE LOVE TO JUDGE OTHER PEOPLE AND TALK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S BUSINESS.AND ITS NOT ALREADY A SHOCKER HERE IF U SEE A 15 YEAR OLD GURL wITH AN OLD BLOAK THAT PRETT MUCH LOOK LIKE HIS DAD OR GRANPA ALREADY...SAD BUT TRUE...

If an older man is single, there’s probably a reason why. In which case, a much younger girl shouldn’t be seeing him.

[Ayjay]

YEP THAT'S wHAT I BELIEVE TOOO,THAT I CAN NEVER EVER BE IN A RELATIONSHIP wHERE I CAN BE wITH A GUY 20 PLUS YEARS THAN ME,EVEN 10 YEARS.BUT HEY THATS JUST ME...IF SOME PEOPLE ARE HAPPY THEN CONGRATS TO THEM...

I ALSO ADMIRE THESE YOUNG GIRLS' COURAGE...BEING IN A SOCIETY wHERE PEOPLE LOVE TO JUDGE OTHER PEOPLE AND TALK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S BUSINESS.AND ITS NOT ALREADY A SHOCKER HERE IF U SEE A 15 YEAR OLD GURL wITH AN OLD BLOAK THAT PRETT MUCH LOOK LIKE HIS DAD OR GRANPA ALREADY...SAD BUT TRUE...

If an older man is single, there’s probably a reason why. In which case, a much younger girl shouldn’t be seeing him.

Hi Queenbee..

Some of the olde boys on this forum will never see the self evident reality behind your observations..

I would agree with your comments about your visiting family being shocked at these inter-generational mismatches, they are grotesque, and as you say they are the product of a poverty soaked society..

AJ

[RickyR]

WillsG25, you have to be careful what your looking at and where you are the Philippines. You have two types, you have the true couples and you have the sex tourists (normally with bar girls/prostitutes etc). Mostly what you'll see walking around looking rough and constantly drunk in Cebu etc are the sex tourists, these are a different kettle of fish. As i've come to learn here on this forum, the people here are dedicated to their relationship, if they weren't they wouldn't be here!
Don't get confused with that!

Also talking about the 70 year old face sitting, well thats sick and all your going to get is a lot of farting in your face!

[walesrob]

But at the end of the day it is not my place to judge .... but I would seriously doubt that all of them are of true love!

Quite right, as long as the couple are happy, that's all matters. No laws are being broken and no-one is getting upset, so I don't understand why some people make it an issue.

Elsa and I are only a few years apart, (I'm 41, she's 37) but Elsa looks about 21 and only 4'9" in height, so we get the stares at the supermarket and on the High Street.

[Ayjay]

I think that if the Philippines were not so soaked in poverty, there would be a lot less old westerners married to young Filipina. I think that there are many western guys taking advantage of the fact they have the attraction of the wallet and foriegn passport. How could it be that a girl of 20 be physically attracted to one 25 years her senior! How many old guys do you see with a relatively wealthy girl? I could never see nor accept a guy dating my daughter who is over 10 years older than her. My wife in 2 years older than I, so I have nothing to be ashamed of, my family were shocked when they first visited the Philippines to see a vast majority of old guys with these yound girls! Many take that long trip from the UK to find the young little thing, may it be Philippines, Thailand or China. But at the end of the day it is not my place to judge one unless it involves memebers of my family, I am sure in these mentioned relationships both parties are happy, but I would seriously doubt that all of them are of true love!

Bravo WillsG25,

Self evident, and the correct response from a responsible parent..

AJ

[pumpkins]

Also talking about the 70 year old face sitting, well thats sick and all your going to get is a lot of farting in your face!

maybe the face is worth farting on

[RickyR]

Quite right, as long as the couple are happy, that's all matters. No laws are being broken and no-one is getting upset, so I don't understand why some people make it an issue.

Elsa and I are only a few years apart, (I'm 41, she's 37) but Elsa looks about 21 and only 4'9" in height, so we get the stares at the supermarket and on the High Street.

I GET THIS!!!! My fiance is 8 years older then me, but looks AND ACTS about 16!

And pumpkins! Your taking this to another level!!!! Naughty!

[KeithD]

....these inter-generational mismatches, they are grotesque, and as you say they are the product of a poverty soaked society.....

AJ

So I guess you'll be writing to Gordon Brown then to complain about his relationship in this poverty stricken land?