We still have no context in which to give advice.Originally Posted by whiteraven
Simple example wife "I've been trying to call you but you don't answer your cellphone where are you what are you doing"
Husband "My boss called me into a meeting and I've been there for 3 hours you called me at 10am mahal ko I'm working, my phone is downstairs at my desk with the sound turned off so as not to upset other people in the office".
Repeat 10 times over a month and the wife starts believing her husband is making excuses for not talking to her and the suspicion starts, once it starts it's corrosive and the man can do next to nothing to prove that he is not making excuses but telling the truth.
Next thing every little thing starts to be seen as an excuse, the tension rises and the husband starts getting very very angry at constant accusations of being up to something when he isn't.
And yes I am speaking from personal experience and although I love my partner dearly her lack of trust sometimes hurts me deeply.
Basic problem in a long distance relationship which is exacerbated by the LDR stage being over prolonged.
The guy might simply get angry because he is telling the truth and not being believed.
@liane
The "look you straight in the eye thing" is a specific case being excessively generalised, good liars could look you straight in the eye no problem and you would never know.
Or worse if you already harbour suspicions about the question you are asking, you may already prime yourself to see something in his look that isn't there.
People earn each others trust and respect by the way they treat each other day to day, it's a continuous process that must always be reaffirmed by our actions.
Trust is easily lost and hard to regain and in an LDR it can be lost unfairly.
Ross we need more context to give proper advice.
Jim
