Originally Posted by
JimOttley
Hi again Ross.
Sorry but I do not wish to ask too many private questions, so please do not answer unless you are comfortable answering. I have read some of your other threads and I understand you are trying to apply for spouse visa and British passport for your child just now and I guess your husband is in the UK at present while you are still in the Philippines?
Your opening question on your thread was a little surprising in that context as it's a really open ended question with no real answer, you hint in your reply to my comment that I seem to have touched a nerve and that your issues may well be about communication between you and your partner and possibly you are losing trust in him for that reason?
When you are separated by 8 hours in time and 6500 miles distance it is very easy to feel you are being ignored when you do not get an answer to a telephone call but there really are many innocent reasons why this can happen and to see a problem where non exists can really hurt your relationship with your partner.
Ask yourself if there has been a big change in the way you talk to each other.
When you do talk are you always arguing about not keeping in touch enough or arguing over your suspicions?
Have you got money problems as a family either here in the UK or in the Philippines or maybe even both?
Does your husband support you and your child properly?
I have a great deal of sympathy for your uncertainty and worry, but you should not be quick to lose trust in your husband particularly if you have never had any reason to doubt him in the past?
I hope you regain your trust in him and I hope that he is truly deserving of your trust but you are the only person who can judge that and if you have been together a long time you should have a good basis for trusting each other already.
Jim
