Pressured for a quick marriage...

[pennybarry]

How many times you've met her personally? Some Filipinas are always in a hurry to marry their white boyfriend.
I've introduced some white friends to some of my friends and they married on the first time they met. I was really against that and told my friends to know their BF well as I don't wanna be blamed in the end and will be hard to escape if you have kids, and feel you are hooked well.
Sometimes, I am partly blamed.

If your patience is not that long, you must tell your girlfriend about that. She needs to know your weakness and strongest points. You will be the one who will suffer in the end if she will leave you after your marriage. You will spend a lot for her and her kids,,, and in case she loose her temper and give you up, then everything will be gone.

There's no harm in knowing her better especially if she has kids.
Tell her to ask you a thousand questions about you and your behaviour before she make decision to marry you.

[pacificelectric]

How many times you've met her personally? Some Filipinas are always in a hurry to marry their white boyfriend.

I met her once in September and everything went fine but I do not want to push things too fast. I am convinced she is sincerely in love with me and her actions prove it better than words but she also has anxieties at time, especially when questioned by other Pinays. I understand that other Filipinas can be jealous and envious when one of them has a foreign bf and she even fears that when we go to her working place I could be "snatched" by some other women! But don't worry, I find myself surprisingly patient with her....

[JimOttley]

I met her once in September and everything went fine but I do not want to push things too fast. I am convinced she is sincerely in love with me and her actions prove it better than words but she also has anxieties at time, especially when questioned by other Pinays. I understand that other Filipinas can be jealous and envious when one of them has a foreign bf and she even fears that when we go to her working place I could be "snatched" by some other women! But don't worry, I find myself surprisingly patient with her....

I get the same, my Ana is constantly asked by friends and relatives why we are not married yet and why do we not have our own house and why do we not have our own car, why do we not have a business in the Philippines, your partner is a westerner how come you don't have happy life, you been with him many years now.

They torture her even some members of the family do that though not immediate family, I really feel for her but it spills over into arguments between us as part of her forgets all her personal issues that we have been fixing over the last five years. Oddly in my case too the family are mostly on my side they know I am doing my best but Ana gets caught up in the "keeping up with the Jones' " snobbery that exists so much in the Phils.

Take your time sir, I think you need a lot longer and a good many more visits to decide, remember that even after you are married the comparisons can keep on coming, the wonders of modern communication