How to deal nicely with a poor Filipina

[Philip]

IMO, it would be to acquiese to such requests, by immediately dipping into one's wallet ... without REALLY knowing anything about the person asking.

I did just that and it turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life because helping my newly found online friend eventually led to true love. Had I not helped, it probably wouldn't have developed in to what it did because she simply would not have been able to afford to be online much, if at all.

Be cautious, but don't let that caution close the door on something potentially great.

[Arthur Little]

I did just that and it turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life because helping my newly found online friend eventually led to true love. Had I not helped, it probably wouldn't have developed in to what it did because she simply would not have been able to afford to be online much, if at all.

Be cautious, but don't let that caution close the door on something potentially great.

Undoubtedly there ARE occasions when things turn out happily ... as you've just proved; nevertheless, I still adhere to the basic principle that people ought ALWAYS to be on their guard whenever they're asked for money by someone whom they've never met. I mean, it's sheer commonsense, after all!

[JonHig]

It is all a bit of a lottery really. Early on when i had been over here for just a few weeks, i lent 100000pesos to school well known to my wife. She had sent her two children by here first marriage there. They needed funds to be able to refurbish the place which needed. Cutting a very long story short, i have only recently got my money back, fighting every inch of the way for two years. They agreed in a legal document to pay back with interest within 6 months.

You have no idea what excuses they came up with along the way. A right bunch of liars they were too! It is an 'Holistic' school - what morals and qualities must they be injecting into their pupils with their hypocritical teaching?

Beware

[JonHig]

They needed funds to refurbish the school, which was certainly necessary.

Correction - sorry about that!

[IanB]

Steve,

This is what I do not completely agree with:

My Mahal is exactly as Arthur has described, she has high family and moral values.

Certainly in Thailand, and almost certainly in the Philippines, high family in my view does not automatically = high moral values. In both countries, low family does not = low moral values either!

Most corruption and murder in the Philippines comes from those people of high family, who then choose to blame the problems of the country on those of low families.

I am sure that your mahal has high moral values, as does mine. But I don't think those are because your mahal comes from a high family nor do I think that my mahal has high values because she comes from a low family.

[South-east boy]

Steve,

This is what I do not completely agree with:



Certainly in Thailand, and almost certainly in the Philippines, high family in my view does not automatically = high moral values. In both countries, low family does not = low moral values either!

Most corruption and murder in the Philippines comes from those people of high family, who then choose to blame the problems of the country on those of low families.

I am sure that your mahal has high moral values, as does mine. But I don't think those are because your mahal comes from a high family nor do I think that my mahal has high values because she comes from a low family.

I don't think Steve meant that his mahal came from a high family so therefor has high values, but by saying 'high' he just meant good - in that she has good family values and good morals.

[Arthur Little]

I don't think Steve meant that his mahal came from a high family so therefor has high values, but by saying 'high' he just meant good - in that she has good family values and good morals.

You're RIGHT, Tim ... ... he DIDN'T [Steve] ... and NOR did I! He and I BOTH meant "good, honest family values and high MORAL standards" ... decent-living, in other words ... which, ... just as in the UK, US - or indeed ANY other country in the world, for that matter - has absolutely no bearing on people's financial and/or social status!