A desperate situation - advice needed

[troubled]

She, like her mother in HK - just want peace of mind which I can understand. She has been badly hurt before and I don't want her to be hurt again but rushing into marraige will not guarantee hapiness, in fact it could force us apart, which brings me to another question.

I am going to Thailand for 30 days at the end of this month because my visa will expire and I have many things to do over there, people to see regarding a job and money to collect from a newspaper I was writing for. i am expected to return and marry in July.

Let's say I did marry her and it didn't work out, what would I stand to lose?

[aromulus]

She, like her mother in HK - just want peace of mind which I can understand. She has been badly hurt before and I don't want her to be hurt again but rushing into marraige will not guarantee hapiness, in fact it could force us apart, which brings me to another question.

I am going to Thailand for 30 days at the end of this month because my visa will expire and I have many things to do over there, people to see regarding a job and money to collect from a newspaper I was writing for. i am expected to return and marry in July.

Let's say I did marry her and it didn't work out, what would I stand to lose?

If you are so full of doubts yourself it is the alarm bells in your head sounding the " Abandon ship" tune.....
To be fair, you have to give the relationship more time as it stands. But to marry just to please the family ain't on.

I feel, I must also agree with the other forum members, don't even think of taking it on. She is only looking for some respectability in front of the family, neighbours, etc.

You are already going to Thailand, spend time there, re-evaluate the situation, and if you really feel you WANTto marry the girl, because you love her, then do it. In your own sweet time... not theirs.
But personally I would not be rushed into something I would be sorry for, for the rest of my life. Divorces in the Philippines are not the norm. And anulments are on the expensive side and carry a long winded time frame. So you could be stuck with some heavy baggage in case you really find the woman of your dreams.
Financially and emotionally, you would stand to lose quite a bit, if you went ahead...
I wanted to post earlier, and strongly advise to leave for other shores, and leave it all behind. My opinion hasn't changed... Close this sorry chapter and move on...

Only my 2 pence worth...

Dom