Trouble making family members

[keithAngel]

i dont think its unreasonable for family members to expect money, esp if they dont have work& even if they do some of the wages &working hours/conditions are terrible if they are related to someone they perceive as having money its only natural that they may want some help. yes they may well have got by without any help before, but that doesnt mean they couldnt have used some.

Perceptions dont earn money and yes it may be perfectly natural for anyone to "want" just as it is for me to say no

[Terpe]

Perceptions dont earn money and yes it may be perfectly natural for anyone to "want" just as it is for me to say no

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask, if help is really needed.
I don't think it's unreasonable to say 'no' . But .... it can, and often does cause issues.
It shouldn't.

As for me, England is not paved with gold and earning enough money is not picking cherries. Depends what really is family and where to draw a line (in my experience).
How extensive is the family that may require help. In my case I can count 32 which would be classed as immediate family.

I always help with medical and education. This year 2010 I have spent way too much on emergencies.
If I would be asked for more I must say no or borrow (debt).
Sometimes, it's difficult for my wife to understand also. But hey. I have to manage that.

I would not be happy to think that any of my extended family expect money for anything.