Quote Originally Posted by raynaputi View Post
It's not because he already got kids, it's because of his health...read my post again...and like i said, we both still don't know what would happen in the future, if both our minds would change...yes it might end up a nagging thought in my head if I don't accept his situation and health conditions...but i knew this long before we had a relationship yet i still am in the relationship..
Sorry Rayna, I was skipping a step, as I didn't want to sound too intrusive.

What I wanted to ask was:

What health problem does he have that impedes you from having children?

Either it's a problem with the conception. i.e. he has infertility issues. Which can be solved by going to a fertility clinic, and using IVF, IUI, ICI using his sperm, or using a sperm donor.

Or if it's a problem with the raising of the children. i.e. he is unwell/disabled and requires too much care, that adding children into the mix would be one extra unnecessary factor. In this scenario perhaps you could seek additional benefits and/or a carer.

Hopefully you can have your cake and eat it.

Quote Originally Posted by mark
Rayna, its a big compromise. The biggest one you will ever make.
I agree. Maybe a better word is sacrifice.