Fat Chance !

[tiger31]

That was rather rude of him to ask you to lose weight lol

[Michael Parnham]

That was rather rude of him to ask you to lose weight lol

I disagree Brian, my Maritess weighs just under 7 stone 5feet tall and very small boned, when I see her eating a lot on certain occasions I always tell her to be careful Because I'm terrified she will put weight on!

[tiger31]

I disagree Brian, my Maritess weighs just under 7 stone 5feet tall and very small boned, when I see her eating a lot on certain occasions I always tell her to be careful Because I'm terrified she will put weight on!

Michael, it,s very insulting to a woman to tell her to lose weight in my opinion. Will you love your wife less if she gained a bit of weight ? In later years it,s very hard for women to lose weight.

[Jentobeharrison]

Michael, it,s very insulting to a woman to tell her to lose weight in my opinion. Will you love your wife less if she gained a bit of weight ? In later years it,s very hard for women to lose weight.

You are right, it was very insulting. I am not sure if any one here has an idea how painful it was to be told to lose weight, worse happened to me when my fiance went here November. One night before my birthday party, we had some heart-to heart talk in Riverbanks Marikina, we were seated in the grass and there were people around us as well but that moment was really painful. That moment he told me that I was so big for his eyes to the point the he was currently unattracted to me-- My world crashed and really cried, it was the most painful moment in my life, I swear, he also cried for making me feel that way but we both cant help it. Until we reached the hotel and the coldness between us were still present, i was like staying in a hotel with a stranger, until the night, i cant stop crying and told him that I wanna go home and did not want to see him but as the time goes by, it calmed me down. He talked to me and said that the reason why he was just being honest because he loves me and wanted to be with me forever, he decided to tell it to me directly in persont whilst he was here and we were together than go back to England and just leave me. It was a wake up call for me, but you know it really affect my personality, The first 2 to 3 weeks of struggling in exercise and diet, I had a very low self-esteem, the high confidence that I had, were all vanished, insecurity almost killed me, I almost gave up thinking that if he loves me, he should accept the real me, but it will just ruin our relationship and I might hate him if I will always think that way. He also told me that if I wont lose weight until February, he wouldn't like to marry a woman who has no plan to get healthy. But since he saw that I am trying and has plans, he then told me that he was just joking to me about giving me deadline for losing weight, he will still marry me no matter what but of course he doesnt want me to suffer in our marriage life in the future if I remain fat and will still be unattractive for him.

He loves me for who I am and my personality, that is the reason why he stayed and why he gave me a chance.

Some people that I've talked to about this, see him as a shallow minded person, a bad person who is trying to change me, but if he didn't do that, maybe until now I am living with his lies.

But honestly it has still a big impact to me. Hahaha. I am still insecure.

[grahamw48]

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Some people that I've talked to about this, see him as a shallow minded person, a bad person who is trying to change me, but if he didn't do that, maybe until now I am living with his lies.

But honestly it has still a big impact to me. Hahaha. I am still insecure.

You seem to be taking some major life-changing decisions...despite these negative experiences and insecurities.

[gWaPito]

He loves me for who I am and my personality, that is the reason why he stayed and why he gave me a chance.


But honestly it has still a big impact to me. Hahaha. I am still insecure.

That's very kind of him

[Rosie1958]

You are right, it was very insulting. I am not sure if any one here has an idea how painful it was to be told to lose weight, worse happened to me when my fiance went here November. One night before my birthday party, we had some heart-to heart talk in Riverbanks Marikina, we were seated in the grass and there were people around us as well but that moment was really painful. That moment he told me that I was so big for his eyes to the point the he was currently unattracted to me-- My world crashed and really cried, it was the most painful moment in my life, I swear, he also cried for making me feel that way but we both cant help it. Until we reached the hotel and the coldness between us were still present, i was like staying in a hotel with a stranger, until the night, i cant stop crying and told him that I wanna go home and did not want to see him but as the time goes by, it calmed me down. He talked to me and said that the reason why he was just being honest because he loves me and wanted to be with me forever, he decided to tell it to me directly in persont whilst he was here and we were together than go back to England and just leave me. It was a wake up call for me, but you know it really affect my personality, The first 2 to 3 weeks of struggling in exercise and diet, I had a very low self-esteem, the high confidence that I had, were all vanished, insecurity almost killed me, I almost gave up thinking that if he loves me, he should accept the real me, but it will just ruin our relationship and I might hate him if I will always think that way. He also told me that if I wont lose weight until February, he wouldn't like to marry a woman who has no plan to get healthy. But since he saw that I am trying and has plans, he then told me that he was just joking to me about giving me deadline for losing weight, he will still marry me no matter what but of course he doesnt want me to suffer in our marriage life in the future if I remain fat and will still be unattractive for him.

He loves me for who I am and my personality, that is the reason why he stayed and why he gave me a chance.

Some people that I've talked to about this, see him as a shallow minded person, a bad person who is trying to change me, but if he didn't do that, maybe until now I am living with his lies.

But honestly it has still a big impact to me. Hahaha. I am still insecure.

I find your fiance’s lack of tact staggering, no wonder you have been suffering from low self esteem and haven’t felt good about yourself. Strong positive encouragement is far more benefical than threats and I hope that he has also learnt from his very cruel and blunt actions.

You can do it Jen, but do it for yourself. Just remain focussed, reduce your portions sizes, make sure you eat fruit and vegetables and exercise as much as you can!

[tiger31]

I find your fiance’s lack of tact staggering, no wonder you have been suffering from low self esteem and haven’t felt good about yourself. Strong positive encouragement is far more benefical than threats and I hope that he has also learnt from his very cruel and blunt actions.

You can do it Jen, but do it for yourself. Just remain focussed, reduce your portions sizes, make sure you eat fruit and vegetables and exercise as much as you can!

perfectly spoken comment

[marksroomspain]

You are right, it was very insulting. I am not sure if any one here has an idea how painful it was to be told to lose weight, worse happened to me when my fiance went here November. One night before my birthday party, we had some heart-to heart talk in Riverbanks Marikina, we were seated in the grass and there were people around us as well but that moment was really painful. That moment he told me that I was so big for his eyes to the point the he was currently unattracted to me-- My world crashed and really cried, it was the most painful moment in my life, I swear, he also cried for making me feel that way but we both cant help it. Until we reached the hotel and the coldness between us were still present, i was like staying in a hotel with a stranger, until the night, i cant stop crying and told him that I wanna go home and did not want to see him but as the time goes by, it calmed me down. He talked to me and said that the reason why he was just being honest because he loves me and wanted to be with me forever, he decided to tell it to me directly in persont whilst he was here and we were together than go back to England and just leave me. It was a wake up call for me, but you know it really affect my personality, The first 2 to 3 weeks of struggling in exercise and diet, I had a very low self-esteem, the high confidence that I had, were all vanished, insecurity almost killed me, I almost gave up thinking that if he loves me, he should accept the real me, but it will just ruin our relationship and I might hate him if I will always think that way. He also told me that if I wont lose weight until February, he wouldn't like to marry a woman who has no plan to get healthy. But since he saw that I am trying and has plans, he then told me that he was just joking to me about giving me deadline for losing weight, he will still marry me no matter what but of course he doesnt want me to suffer in our marriage life in the future if I remain fat and will still be unattractive for him.

He loves me for who I am and my personality, that is the reason why he stayed and why he gave me a chance.

Some people that I've talked to about this, see him as a shallow minded person, a bad person who is trying to change me, but if he didn't do that, maybe until now I am living with his lies.

But honestly it has still a big impact to me. Hahaha. I am still insecure.

You come over a really lovely person Jen and he is one hell of a lucky guy.

Remember like Rosie said, do this for yourself not for anybody else.

I hope you both have a happy future together.

Love & Peace...

[gWaPito]

That was rather rude of him to ask you to lose weight lol

I agree. We are what we are. You can't change your genetics. ...what a cheek

My ex is 5' 5'' weighs around the 42kilo. Only went up to 47 kilos during 2 Pregnancies.

[NoRest]

Lucky her