i can totally relate to this. shameful as it is but yes that's how some of our relatives can be, my own family a classic example. when i went back to the phils. early this year after keith passed away, i decided to have the house renovated. the roof is rotting and really needs a good changing, put some windows glass in it (yes we didn't have windows with covers just plain windows), extended part of the house to have a decent kitchen with sink (yes that too! all those years we never had a sink) and a bathroom. i'm just content to provide them with a decent house finally and that's all because of Keith. my father owns the house with my daughter & grandchild. when my sisters found out about it they all sent me messages asking for help which means money. i did give some to my sister who helped me out and my daughter while i was away so that's ok, not much but i knew it will tide her somehow. my other sister tried to borrow some money too. told her i will just give her some, give not a loan, as she helped me too a long time ago. not too happy about it as she needs more and told me that when i needed help before she was too glad to do it. well told her i have & will never forget it and if i have more i would gladly help her but i made her realize that i lost a husband, i did not win the lotto! that did it and she unfriended me on FB! guess you cannot really please everybody lol btw, she's not really hard up as the husband is an OFW and two kids working already