What an interesting thread.

You all think that you are helping and think they all appreciate that help. Keep on believing. Read Sally Sanchez post again. Maybe your wife may write a post like that one day. She lost her husband, maybe had some inheritance, tried to help out in the Phils and look what she got. They do not care that she lost a husband because it was not their husband. If you want to put that attitude down to them being in the poor old Phils with their hard times then fine. Keep believing it if you can afford to keep on paying for it. I love my wife and children but am under no illusions of what her being married to a foreigner means to her family. Dont get me wrong I have sent my fair share of cash for renovations, doctors, school fees etc over the years as has my wife. But I do it only for the good of our relationship. All of us here play the same game and some see the good in people and some see the opportunists. Long may that contiinue!