Quote Originally Posted by jbt View Post
thanks Iain and joebloggs, thank you very much for the infos., my married sister and her husband is looking after my daughter and me and my husband is sending money for my daughter monthly and we've got all the receipts w/us, w/ the monthly support we're sending, it also includes a little amount of help for my sister's family as well.

my daughter knows her father, 'coz he lives in the next city they're living in and not that far away, he's also married and got a family of his own, we never got married and he's not mentioned on her birth certificate, they see each other very rarely, like xmas or birthdays, maybe at least twice or thrice a year. my daughter is turning 15 and eversince, i separated from her father, more or less 12 years now, he never gave any financial support. i just hope he'll give my daughter a letter w/out playing hard to get.

i do not have a sole custody form from the court, i wonder if your wife has this? if so, how did she get one or how's the procedure or requirements needed to obtain one?

thank you very much again joebloggs and sorry if i always bother you w/ all my queries.

best regards,
jbt
If your ex is not mentioned on the birth certificate and has nothing in writing to say that he has any rights over your daughter, then you have sole responsibility for her. I wouldn't mention your ex at all, after all, he doesn't have regular contact with her and he doesn't support her. My wife didn't have anything in writing to say that she had sole cusody of her daughter, but her ex was not mentioned on the birth certificate, so she had sole custody.

I think if you ask him for a letter he's almost certain to think it's his birthday and see cash registers ringing up crazy figures in front of his eyes, you being married to a Brit and absolutely rolling in money as he would see it.

I think the best thing for you to do is to totally exclude him from the whole process, don't tell him anything at all about the visa and make sure that your daughter doesn't tell him either. Then when your daughter gets to the UK, she can send him a nice postcard.
Iain.