Sorry, can't let you get away with all that.Originally Posted by Tonet
Hello
I just want to say something,, you're in a strange situation now, but its also your fault!!
In the first place you shouldn't have stayed in their house, her parents might be wrong forcing you to marry her but its natural for ALL filipino mothers. Imagine how she will be if you just leave her, not knowing if you will be coming back!
Like you said you to arrive there and stayed in their house. I wont be wrong saying her parents, relatives, neighbours, ALL of them are thinking you are her serious bf or future husband,a typical filipina wont bring a man to stay in one roof for a couple of night if there's nothing serious going on between them,, that is based on how i know!!
So now try to think,, you stayed there for a couple of days/weeks and all been expecting that you two will get married, and you all of the sudden disappear. people will think and say " poor girl she's just been an entertainment for a bored foreigner" and that thought will always be in mind of people,, they are always gonna mock her and her family. Family just want their DIGNITY,it doesnt mean that because she's an escort girl she doesnt has this!!
But!!!I'm not saying you should stay coz that would be a decision that will affect your whole life and future,, well if you're in love with her go for it and if not,,,,,MOVE ON and love is not about if she will be a good wife or mother!!But Please don't just leave as if nothing happens between the two of you!! everything will be settle with a good communication!!
I'm wishing the best for you and for the girl God Bless!!
As much as I understand what you're saying about dignity, what the family and neighbours think etc, troubled has done no wrong here.
He met his Filipina girlfriend in Hong Kong by chance. Before meeting her he had never been to the Philippines before, so to my mind he had absolutely no reason to understand Filipino traditions and culture.
His girlfriend had taken troubled to meet her mother twice before travelling to Phils. If her mother was so concerned about dignity, family pride etc, she should have made her feelings/expectations known during those two visits. Did her mother ask troubled of his intentions during those 2 visits?, somehow I doubt it.
Troubled also made it clear it was his intention to stay in accommodation away from the family home, so how did he end up staying in the family home?, my guess is his girlfriend took him there. At this point the father still had the opportunity to ask troubled his intentions and to make decisions whether to allow this young man to stay under the family roof or not, did he though?, once again I doubt it.
As I said, I understand what you're saying about dignity and the family being mocked if it all goes wrong etc as my girlfriend's family had the same concerns. The difference was they told me their wishes and gave me the chance to make my own decisions before reaching their family home!
The bottom line is, troubled has done no wrong here. The family could have and probably should have stopped him staying under the family roof, they didn't and that is their problem now, not troubled!
