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[Terpe]

......because we go with our hearts and not with our heads. Easy thing to happen.

This is so true, especially for me.
It's so easy to tell others what they must or must not do when we have no emotional investment. We all do it.
By the same token, we all learn our best lessons from our mistakes and failures in the past.
One thing I've learned, is understanding what I WILL do by finding out what I WILL NOT do.
And I will not give up trying to achieve compassion, calmness and a warm heart.

So looks like I'm setting myself up again

[Ako Si Jamie]

This is so true, especially for me.
It's so easy to tell others what they must or must not do when we have no emotional investment. We all do it.
By the same token, we all learn our best lessons from our mistakes and failures in the past.
One thing I've learned, is understanding what I WILL do by finding out what I WILL NOT do.
And I will not give up trying to achieve compassion, calmness and a warm heart.

So looks like I'm setting myself up again

I'll be the first to admit I was a big soft apeth towards women in my younger days but since being hurt a couple of times I said to myself I'd only show that side to a woman until I see her cards first.

Like you correctly said, it's about learning from your mistakes but some don't and create a rod for their own backs by going round in circles.

But we're all guilty of focusing on the book cover and not the content.