Pinay girlfriend desperate to get married.....

[HACHE]

Ah well, there are a few posts on this thread...maybe a bit "off-topic" though..

Anyway, update of my situation. Alot of silly arguments...if I don't text her the right thing, if I don't reciprocate the way she expects..all these crazy accusations that I am "pushing her away".....it's times like this I question "is this the way of the future?"....is she gona give me a hard time like this out of absolutely nothing, just barely trivial stuff and its not the first.
I think she's panicking, know she's running out of time, and perhaps frustrated that I am not giving her "direction" in our relationship....What I keep saying, now I am fed of of petty arguments about stupid things she should never be bothered about...and how on earth am I gona make a long term plan based on this rubbish going on??? I think I am treating ( with a hell of alot of patience) this like a relationship here, where I spend time trying to see if there's potential, but this isn't on her priorities, it doesn't matter, she just "needs" to stay....

[London_Manila]

Ah well, there are a few posts on this thread...maybe a bit "off-topic" though..

Anyway, update of my situation. Alot of silly arguments...if I don't text her the right thing, if I don't reciprocate the way she expects..all these crazy accusations that I am "pushing her away".....it's times like this I question "is this the way of the future?"....is she gona give me a hard time like this out of absolutely nothing, just barely trivial stuff and its not the first.
I think she's panicking, know she's running out of time, and perhaps frustrated that I am not giving her "direction" in our relationship....What I keep saying, now I am fed of of petty arguments about stupid things she should never be bothered about...and how on earth am I gona make a long term plan based on this rubbish going on??? I think I am treating ( with a hell of alot of patience) this like a relationship here, where I spend time trying to see if there's potential, but this isn't on her priorities, it doesn't matter, she just "needs" to stay....

She is only playing up now because you are not playing ball with her

What with tougher immigration rules about to kick in for domestic workers in the uk then there will plenty more of this to come.
They cant stay here legally anymore and thats where you come in

She is demanding and hassle now so the last thing you want to do in marry her

Dump her now and let her find another victim

[HACHE]

She is only playing up now because you are not playing ball with her

What with tougher immigration rules about to kick in for domestic workers in the uk then there will plenty more of this to come.
They cant stay here legally anymore and thats where you come in

She is demanding and hassle now so the last thing you want to do in marry her

Dump her now and let her find another victim

It's a fair point. I fell for her, and I guess my patience in the early days just permitted her to become like this, but if its her true colours I am glad I know now....

[malditako]

It's a fair point. I fell for her, and I guess my patience in the early days just permitted her to become like this, but if its her true colours I am glad I know now....

I can imagine how you feel being pressured by your situation where heart and mind dont go same way.

just my thoughts...if i put myself into your shoe and i so sure about the feelings for this girl I would never have a second thought of marrying her especially if that would solve her problem regardless of her intentions. Others may have disagree but thats how love works often than not. If you're 100% in love with this girl you wouldn't be here asking advices as you really know what to do. Petty quarrels and silly arguments are always part of relationship. All couples in love do fights. and still remain together . I am pretty sure you know what your mind and your heart tells you what to do

[HACHE]

I can imagine how you feel being pressured by your situation where heart and mind dont go same way.

just my thoughts...if i put myself into your shoe and i so sure about the feelings for this girl I would never have a second thought of marrying her especially if that would solve her problem regardless of her intentions. Others may have disagree but thats how love works often than not. If you're 100% in love with this girl you wouldn't be here asking advices as you really know what to do. Petty quarrels and silly arguments are always part of relationship. All couples in love do fights. and still remain together . I am pretty sure you know what your mind and your heart tells you what to do

Thanks for the reply.
You're right in saying if I was 100% I wouldn't be seeking advice here. Or anywhere for that matter.
But for me I guess I needed to confirm to myself why i am not 100%....Genuine misgivings that I am not admitting to myself, or is it my temdancy to be overcautious and do the easy thing and just walk when things seem a bit complicated...
Anyway, seems fate is forcing our hands. She's been told that she's only got 2 months to find a college, and a new course would cost £4-6K and only can do one year, during which she'll not be able to legally work unless that course is at a university. She's resigned herself to just going home. I think I have aswell.
Ah well....part of life's complicated tapestry...